My guess is that you are really, really hard on yourself.

And my guess is you've been doing this for so many years that it feels like it's just a habit

for you.

It feels like it's the only way to be and you probably think you deserve it.

Now, if that's you, you're going to want to listen to this episode because today we're

going to talk about the signs that you are too

self-critical and how it is impacting your recovery. We have so much research to show that the more

you beat yourself up, the slower your recovery is, the more difficult it is to be motivated,

the more you procrastinate, the more anxiety and depression you have. And so we want to get

to the bottom of this. All of the work I do circles around this one concept, which is you can overcome

your anxiety. You can recover from OCD. But a huge part of that is about how you talk to yourself, whether that's how you motivate

yourself, how you much to encourage yourself while in the face of actual adversity, while

you are anxious, while you're having intrusive thoughts.

That is the key component here.

And let's get to it.

Now first let me just dispel a myth i am not here with the goal of you always speaking just so kindly that is probably not going to happen there will

be times where you screw up and you make a mistake and you beat yourself up a little bit.

Here is an example. I am very, very kind to myself. I almost never say unkind things to myself.

This week, I'm leaving to go to Australia, literally in about six hours. I'm here recording with you because that's how important it is with me. I'm leaving, but I'm leaving to go to Australia, literally in about six hours. I'm here recording with you because

that's how important it is with me. I'm leaving, but I did not want to miss an episode. And on Thursday,

today is Saturday. On Thursday, I realized I let my passport expire. Now, the cool thing is,

I said only one unkind thing. It's going to happen. My only thing is I said,

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