I'm Jodie Moore at Bold New Mom. This is a bonus episode how to get exactly what you want for Christmas.

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Happy Thanksgiving! I wanted to surprise you today with a bonus episode that you can listen to while you are finishing up the turkey and setting the table and getting the house all ready to go for Thanksgiving or preparing to go to your parents or your in-laws or your sisters or wherever you're going.

I hope that you're going to spend Thanksgiving with friends and family, even if it's your own family. I hope that you're going to have an amazing day.

I am so thankful for all of you who listen to this podcast, for all of you who share it with your friends and family and for your feedback and your love and support.

I feel it. I feel your love. That's not true. I feel my own feelings, but I know that you're out there putting love out into the world and that is a beautiful, amazing thing.

So thank you for that and happy Thanksgiving to you. I want to give you a quick bonus episode today on how to get exactly what you want for Christmas.

This is going to apply whether it's Christmas or your birthday or Mother's Day or just a day when you have something in mind that you want.

Now, one of the things that I see happen all the time with my clients is that we think the people around us should know what we want.

We think that they should understand that we need some help doing the dishes that we want people to be kind and get along that we would prefer if someone would volunteer to help us with dinner or with the kids or whatever we're needing.

And the problem is people can't read our minds and nobody else thinks exactly like you do.

And some of the people in your life might think completely differently than you do.

So whether it's a certain gift that you really want that you have your eye on or a favor or something else that you want, your odds of getting what you want go up tremendously when you tell the people around you what you want.

What? This is a crazy idea, right? Tell people what are you talking about? Shouldn't they ask me, shouldn't they know? I mean, they've lived with me for so long or they know me so well or maybe they raised me, shouldn't they know me by now?

And what I want you to know is that it's completely normal. It doesn't mean anything about whether or not they care about you. It doesn't mean anything about their level of goodness or kindness.

It's just that we can't read minds. So I really want to encourage you if there's something you want to ask for it.

Now, you also have to be really careful about not tying meaning into whether or not you get what you ask for. If I ask my daughter to clean up her room, she may or may not do it.

And if I make her not doing it, mean that she doesn't respect me or love me or that I haven't taught her well or something else painful, I'm going to cause myself a certain experience.

If I make it mean that she's a typical child behaving how children do and that I get to keep teaching her, keep holding her accountable, keep doing whatever I want to as the mom, but not add negative meaning, not add meaning that's going to frustrate me or overwhelm me or keep me stuck.

Same is true if you ask your husband to bring you flowers. He brings you flowers and you can be happy and that's great, but if he doesn't bring you flowers, don't make it mean that you're not important. He loves you anyway.

It's about him. It's about what's going on in his brain. It's probably about him being busy. It's probably about him accidentally forgetting.

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