We are back in your feeds for Round 2 of our Ask Codes which would have

got your friends collab with WNYC's Death Sex and Money.

We did our part here at NPR's Codes which to help folks better understand why so many of us

have same race friendships. We talked about how certain cross-racial friendships can be

challenging to make and to maintain because hashtag housing segregation and everything.

Also, don't think just because you surround yourself with friends who share your racial identity,

you're immune to all the havoc, racism, and plays on friendships because

you most certainly are not. We talked about that too, Shemri.

Yes, we did and if you haven't listened to our episode yet, please do. And if you have,

and you're itching for more, let this episode of Death Sex and Money be your calamine.

Or your gold bond. Either way, it's time to lather up and listen to friends,

talk to host Anna Sale and to each other about when race became a flashpoint in their friendship.

Often throughout our friendship, I've had the experience of this sense that you're on really

solid footing in the relationship. There's a lot of trust and love there, which there is.

But then, you know, your white friend can just make one comment and it feels like a trap door

has opened up from underneath me and, you know, I'm thrust back into the realities of living in

a racist America. This is Death Sex and Money. Friendship is our only social relationship that is

purely voluntary. The show from WNYC about the things we think about a lot. It is only by

and need to talk about more. I'm Anna Sale.

Krasana White was one of the people who wrote in when I asked for your stories about when race

became a flashpoint in a friendship. Sarah and I, we've been talking about our friendship in

terms of race and I think it really started after I had my bachelor at and I didn't invite her.

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