All right, my friends, let's talk about when your situation feels unique or different

because you have to see this person every day.

So this is to me the difference between breakups like long ago and breakups now.

Well, I say that, but that's really just like the social media component of like being able to see where your ex is and what your ex is doing on an oddly confusing basis.

But still, I guess, back in the day, you probably went through breakups with coworkers and, you know, still had to co-parent. You still had

mutual friend groups. But for some reason, to me, this feels like the iPhone era of heartbreaks.

And I, my biggest thing with this is we don't have to make it a problem.

And there's no exact right or wrong decision around this.

When you are in a scenario where you have the option to choose, like do I continue to do the activity that I love knowing I'm going to see my ex?

Or do I just avoid it altogether to let myself heal?

And I think more often than not, people opt in for the second.

And there's nothing wrong with that.

Like, if you have the ability to avoid your X at all costs, block,

delete, all the things, that can be helpful to the right person. To some people, the restriction

creates even more wanting and craving and desiring because when we tell ourselves we can't have something, we tend to want it more.

For example, if we're telling ourselves we can't have the cookie, all of a sudden, all we can

think about is the cookie and thinking about thinking about the cookie. And it just becomes like a

weird loop in our brain. So I always say always give yourself permission to have contact,

give yourself permission to go. Give yourself permission to be in the same friend groups.

Just to loosen the restriction, it doesn't mean that you will. Like, again, with the food

example of like, just because we can have the cookie doesn't

necessarily mean we will eat the whole package of cookies.

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