I'd like your thoughts on a moral dilemma involving a family secret that's been in the family for a couple decades now.

I'm in my 30s for context, but when I was around 18, I was drinking with my mom, and she decided to let me in on a fucked up secret about my little cousin.

My mom told me that my cousin's biological dad died in an accident when he was an infant, I think, like three.

And apparently this dude had quite a bit of money and had left a trust fund to my cousin.

Well, my aunt, she made the decision not to tell my cousin that the dad he's known his whole life isn't his real dad and that his bio dad died and left him this huge sum of money.

And according to my mom, almost everyone in the family knows the secret, and the aunt's been known to threaten anyone with disowning them if they decide to tell my cousin the truth.

At the time, I was livid for A, my mom telling me the fucking secret.

Yeah, that's fucked up on your mom's part.

Telling me that I can't tell my cousin's truth.

But also, wait a second, a mom that gets drunk with her 18-year-old. Yeah. Had a problem with boundaries. That's shocking. I'm blown away that the secret was revealed that late. You know, if this was like a drinking vibe. Yeah, yeah. How'd that not come up earlier? You know what I'm saying? I mean, I mean, why you decide to tell your kid, this is crazy, but let's let her finish Elders. And I don't know, I was young and my mom begged me not to tell him, so I didn't.

And now all of this time is past and I'm getting the urge to tell him again. I personally feel that he deserves to know.

I would want to know.

He's bad like a medical condition.

It's important to know your family history.

But I don't know.

If I tell him, I'd have to tell him that his real dad is dead, that his whole family is known for years and tell

him. And on top of all that, my aunt decided to use the trust fund for the whole family

and the money is gone. Oh, oh, the final, the final, bitch. Thank you, love you, bye. Sorry.

What? What? No, that's crazy. Oh, bitch. Thank you. Love you. Bye. Sorry. Sorry.

What?

What?

No.

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