Bonding with people that traumatize you
Love and Abuse
Paul Colaianni
4.6 • 816 Ratings
🗓️ 4 July 2022
⏱️ 39 minutes
🧾️ Download transcript
Summary
Becoming dependent on someone can put you at their mercy sometimes. And if they are toxic, you are not only now dependent on them for certain things, but they make sure you continue to depend on them so you never get your wants and needs filled completely.
It's like a bag of chips... you can never eat just one. You know they're bad for you, but you keep coming back. I talk about our dependencies in this episode and how they can create hard-to-break trauma bonds.
Transcript
Click on a timestamp to play from that location
| 0:00.0 | Welcome to Love and Abuse, the show about helping you identify poisonous communication and toxic behavior. |
| 0:07.4 | You deserve to be treated with respect and kindness. |
| 0:10.9 | That's why it's important that you learn to pinpoint manipulative and controlling behavior so that you keep your power and your sanity. |
| 0:18.6 | I'm your host, Paul Koliani. |
| 0:39.1 | Thank you. power and your sanity. I'm your host, Paul Koliani. Welcome to love and abuse. If you are a long time listener, I am back. It's been a while, probably a couple months. |
| 0:44.2 | If you are tuning into this show for the first time, I've got a whole library of episodes out there. |
| 0:47.3 | We're on, what are we on, number 96 right now. |
| 0:52.4 | Like the beginning of every episode, I like to tell you all the information on this show is meant for educational purposes only. |
| 0:54.9 | Always seek a professional for your mental health and well-being and always pick your battles wisely. |
| 1:00.6 | Today is, or at least as of this recording, today is July 4th, 2022. |
| 1:06.5 | And I thought, okay, I really want to come out with an episode on your independence. |
| 1:13.0 | And what a day for it, Independence Day, at least in America. |
| 1:16.8 | I know that this is listened to all over the world. |
| 1:18.9 | But let's just look at this as your Independence Day or at least thinking about your independence. |
| 1:25.4 | And I don't mean breaking up with someone or being alone. |
| 1:29.9 | And you may be there now. |
| 1:31.9 | That's okay. |
| 1:32.7 | But I'm talking about the different types of dependencies that we have on people and things. |
| 1:39.8 | But usually things related to people. |
| 1:43.1 | And I'll get into this momentarily. |
| 1:46.0 | But I think it's, I know it's helpful for your life to be less dependent, to be less dependent on anything and anyone. |
| 1:57.8 | In fact, in my mean workbook over at love and abuse.com, I talk about the concept of being |
... |
Please login to see the full transcript.
Disclaimer: The podcast and artwork embedded on this page are from Paul Colaianni, and are the property of its owner and not affiliated with or endorsed by Tapesearch.
Generated transcripts are the property of Paul Colaianni and are distributed freely under the Fair Use doctrine. Transcripts generated by Tapesearch are not guaranteed to be accurate.
Copyright © Tapesearch 2025.