So Bob, one of the anonymous patrons wants to know why your therapist is being such a jerk.

I thought we'd get into that. What do you say?

Okay, I don't have that opinion, but okay.

This is the psychology and Seattle podcast.

I'm your host, Dr. Kirk Honda, I'm a therapist and I'm also a professor.

And I am a person with the therapist.

This is apparently a jerk and your old friend from grad school and a therapist here too.

So an anonymous patron, she writes and it says, thank you for a great podcast in therapist warning

signs. I'm so curious about Bob's therapist though. I'm wondering what his deal is with being late

to sessions. It sort of annoys me because it doesn't make any sense to be late. The only thing I can

come up with is that Bob comes across as incredibly kind and his therapist is just taking advantage of

him. Why is Bob's therapist being such a jerk? Bob, what do you think?

I think honestly, I think my therapist we're here, what he might say is he has,

there's something about on timeness that raises up some issue for him personally.

So most people aren't jerks for the sake of being a jerk.

Like, oh, I know what I'm going to do. I'm going to go out on my way and give you a hard time.

People are, we have our weirdo illnesses, weirdnesses, our idiosyncrasies and there's something

he said to me a couple times that there's something about time that's hard for him and then he

recognizes that it has something to do with his own whatever in our world or whatever.

But look, one thing I'd like you to keep in mind is I didn't know this. I learned something really

important in his being late because the first time I talked to him about it was, you know, probably

pretty early on in our relationship and it scared me to have to do it. Like, I'm a hoe shit,

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