Bob Bar Fight, Attachment, and Pain During Therapy
Psychology In Seattle Podcast
Kirk Honda
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🗓️ 14 June 2023
⏱️ 76 minutes
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00:00 What makes therapists vulnerable?
04:44 Bob on Cameo
07:47 Bar fight
20:33 OPP
21:43 Why would someone trigger themselves?
28:28 Firing a therapist
33:09 Disorganized attachment without abuse
43:29 Pinpointing attachment styles
46:46 Self-harm during a therapeutic session
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June 14, 2023
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| 0:00.0 | So Bob e-mails, what do you say? |
| 0:01.6 | Yes. |
| 0:02.3 | His first email from anonymous patron, she says, |
| 0:04.8 | when in session with a client, is it a vulnerable experience for you too? |
| 0:09.8 | I recently had a session with my therapist where we discussed my discomfort |
| 0:13.9 | for feeling real reciprocal care for my therapist, considering I don't really know my therapist. |
| 0:19.8 | So I think what she's saying here is that she is discussed discomfort. |
| 0:24.0 | She feels uncomfortable that she cares about her client even though she doesn't really know her client. |
| 0:29.2 | When you hear that, what do you think might be going on with the client? |
| 0:32.0 | I think they're nervous, they're worried about rejection, |
| 0:36.3 | and that they might appear foolish to the therapist, |
| 0:40.0 | and the therapist might reject them, and look at them funnier, whatever. |
| 0:44.3 | That's what I think. |
| 0:45.3 | Yeah, I think that's a common transfer answer concern |
| 0:49.5 | that as a client, you're disclosing a lot, and you enjoy that, |
| 0:54.2 | but then you're like, but you never, the client is thinking therapist, |
| 0:58.2 | you never talk about yourself, and that's usually an indication that |
| 1:01.6 | you really care about me, because we both are sharing, |
| 1:05.0 | and you never talk about yourself at all, and I know that that's the way it's supposed to be, |
| 1:09.0 | but that doesn't feel great to me, it feels uncomfortable. |
| 1:12.4 | I think another possibility is that she could have been preentified, |
| 1:15.6 | and feels the need to please and take care of other people, |
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