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Love, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

Blindsided by a Breakup? How to Process and Heal | Heartbreak | E385

Love, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

YAP Media Network | Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

Relationships, Society & Culture, Health & Fitness, Mental Health

4.7890 Ratings

🗓️ 22 January 2024

⏱️ 50 minutes

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Summary

Ever feel like your heart got drop-kicked out of nowhere? Like the rug was yanked from under you and now you’re spiraling, trying to make sense of what just happened? I see you. And if you've ever been blindsided by a breakup — truly blindsided — this episode is for you. In today’s episode of the Love, Happiness and Success podcast, I’m pulling back the curtain on why blindsided breakups happen, why they hurt so much, and — most importantly — how to heal the heartbreak. I’ll walk you through the hard truths, the hidden opportunities, and the steps to rebuild your self-trust, so you can stop obsessing about your ex and start reconnecting with you. Timestamps: 00:00 – Blindside By A Breakup… Ouch. 05:06 – What REALLY Happens in a Blindside Breakup 09:31 – The Honest Truth About Why They Left 23:08 – From Pain to Power: What You Can Learn 24:47 – What Healing Actually Looks Like (and What Doesn’t) 46:09 – How to Heal From Heartbreak Being blindsided by a breakup can leave you spinning, questioning everything. It’s disorienting and destabilizing in a way few things are. But even though it might not feel like it right now, there is a path forward—and it begins with understanding where you are in your healing process. That’s exactly what my breakup quiz: How Over Your Ex Are You? is designed to help you do. It’s a free, research-informed tool created to help you identify which stage of healing you’re currently in, and what next step will actually help you feel better. Take two minutes. Get your results. And see where your healing begins. 👉 How Over You’re Ex Are You? Take the Quiz Now And if you’re sitting with a thousand unanswered questions, or you just wish someone who really gets it could help you make sense of this mess… that support is available too.  You can schedule a free consultation with a breakup recovery expert on my team—someone who knows exactly how to walk with you through this kind of pain. We’re here to listen, understand, and help you figure out what healing can look like for you. 👉 Schedule a Free Consultation This heartbreak doesn’t have to define you, and you don’t have to figure it out alone. You deserve support. You deserve peace. Most of all—you deserve to heal. You can start right now.  Xoxo Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby www.growingself.com P.S. If you know someone who could benefit from this episode—maybe a friend or family member who was just blindsided by a breakup—pass this along to them. Knowing we’re supported can make all of the difference.

Transcript

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0:00.0

On today's show, we're talking about how to process a breakup that you didn't see coming,

0:07.2

because getting dumped is hard enough when you know your relationship is on the rocks.

0:14.3

But when you think everything is going okay only to be blindsided by a surprise ending,

0:24.1

that's an experience that can be really difficult to get over because not just are you mourning the relationship, there's like an emotional

0:29.4

trauma involved.

0:31.5

So that's what we're talking about on today's show.

0:34.0

And setting the mood for us today are the butthole surfers with the song,

0:38.6

Hey, which somehow I felt was appropriate. Thank you for joining me for today's show. If this is

0:44.4

your first time listening, I'm Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby. I'm the founder of growing self-counseling

0:48.4

and coaching. I'm a marriage and family therapist. I'm a licensed psychologist. I am also a life

0:53.1

coach. And for a number of years now,

0:56.4

I have really had a specialty in assisting people with working through particularly traumatic

1:03.3

breakups and divorces. I am really, my trade is as a couples counselor,, which, you know, some specialty and

1:12.9

breakups must mean that I'm not a very good marriage counselor, but I do okay. And the reality

1:19.1

is that there are relationships that really should end. And those situations were always very

1:26.4

challenging to me, at least in years past, as a counselor,

1:30.8

as a coach, because knowing how, believe it or not, to really assist people in breakup recovery,

1:38.3

heartbreak recovery was not anything that I was ever taught, specifically in counseling school, how how to do so I did a master's degree

1:47.8

in marriage and family therapy and then four plus year PhD in counseling psychology at the

1:53.1

doctoral level never once was it explained to me what is going on in these situations and how

1:59.9

to move someone forward that is just not what we're

2:02.5

trained to do. So what that turned into after me feeling frustrated and helpless, certainly can

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