Welcome to the Girl on Top Shallin XO podcast. I'm your host Shallin Lester and you might know me from my YouTube channel, where I analyze celebrity relationships and scandals for the lessons we can take into our own lives. But here on the podcast, I answer the best questions you submitted over the past week. Gotta love quandary, head to my website

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and find me on YouTube for four new videos a week. Welcome back to the podcast, Shal. So this week, our mantra is going to be about

boundaries. I'm reading this book called Essentialism. It's actually going to be the next

literature book club selection. It is like permeating every aspect of my life. But it's about

how to do, not how to try to do everything, we're going to do it all, but how

to do the right things, the beneficial things, the things that actually matter.

And a crucial aspect of that is boundaries.

And we're going to talk about two different questions today, one about birthdays and one about

sex.

And you're like, I don't see how those two could possibly have the same mantra involved, but

they do. Because it circles back to boundaries on both topics.

So let's get relaxed, gets get comfy.

Let's roll our shoulders back.

Take some time for ourselves, right?

Because we can't decide our boundaries.

We can't know ourselves.

If we don't take time to let our intuition speak,

to let our mind just rest and rejuvenate.

So let's make this podcast that time, at the very least the next 20 seconds.

So we're going to inhale through our nose and we're going to exhale through our mouth.

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