Hey, mini group. Judy's parents took me in like they adopted me and they took care of me. Oh, I didn't mean for you to cry. Me and my dad, we've been really emotional today. How do you mean to go there? I'm not crying. Oh, my. Hey guys, episode 160. We are all warmed up from the last episode. We didn't change our clothes. So we're just sitting here. I'm trying to get some extra content extra episodes since Jeff is gone. And since I have a, I have have a good Co-pilot with me on this podcast Still here. Okay, so one thing I wanted to talk about said this was this was something I thought was cold Like my dad I look up to he is all I know you is working you've worked since I mean I Since you were 20, I mean you've always worked. But I mean, since you were 28, like since you had three kids and you've just always worked, I always say you're gonna die working. Cause that's all, I think you love it. I really do. I think you enjoy it. You love your boss, you love what you do and you're good at what you do. So what I wanted to get into today because a lot of people always say, how is your dad so happy? How is your dad so positive? How he always seems like a good time. You didn't grow up the best childhood. You worked for everything you had. You never were given anything. And you got where you are because of all the hard work you put into, but one thing just because people out there, not everything is rosy, not everything's perfect. You know, you really got me through when Jeff went through, what he went through with losing his job because you were the same age, you were when Jeff lost his. And you went from working yourself up to the top and you did really well. And good life, you're a little cocky, little arrogant. Think you had a little midlife crisis. I feel like every guy buys what, the sports car, does does that then you lost everything. Like lost everything. When went broke here, we're very honest, very real. My family were very open and honest and you did. You lost, I mean, you were broke and it humbled you and you've always been a giver and your way of showing love is by buying things. You've always been that way. That's how you know. Like you're always like buying things for people just to show that you love them. And how did you, being not, you never got negative. I'm sure you wanted to, I've heard you say before, you wanted to blow your brains out at one point. But that was what you said. Yeah, I was push ahead. But how did you stay positive and are like, I'm going to get back where I was before I lost everything. Share that. Because I think it is. I think it's inspiring that you, because not that many people can do that, stay positive and stay happy. Yeah, I'm, you know, it was a hard time. It was actually 2006 and everything was going right and you know, lost my job of 17 years. But the hardest point in 06 was I think I can say this, you know, not only did I lose my job three months, two months later, I lost my family. And so here I am. I'm unemployed. I had money in the bank, had a lot of money in the bank, but I had a lot of assets that I was paying for. So I had to take the money out of the bank to stay afloat thinking that I was gonna go ahead and get another job. And in no way, in no six, away, all that area, it was a tough environment, real estate wise and everything else. So yeah, Jordan's right. I did. I lost my homes. My family was, you know, we were in disarray. Cars. Cars. I mean, I lost all my toys. I lost everything. And how do you stay up, Pete? Well, there was period of three months, four months that I was really down. Now, you know, taking my own life, that wasn't an option. But you're at that point. You always say, God, man, I just need to blow my brains out because nothing was working and nothing was there. And but I was trying. And I complained a lot. I did complain a lot and a good

friend of mine, Max Nelson told me goes, buddy, with all the assets and the knowledge you got, quick griping, quick complaining, you got to get up, you're going to get kicked down some more. and he used to be with WSOC TV. And he goes, you have got to take that energy that you got that everybody loves and you got a channel and you got to find another job and you will find one. It takes time and believe me you're not going to start where you left. Yeah, it's not going to happen. So basically I had to rebrand reprogram myself and he goes, and in closing with Max, he goes, don't come back to me griping and whining about your personal life. I'm not interested. And be honest with you, nobody else is. So take that energy and do some. So I actually went and I got an offer for a job out of Brazil, a vertical North America. Not a shame to say it, selling pure green ethanol, basically drinking Alvaca, it was vodka. And we were bringing it over, I got the job and it paid actually more than what I was making. And it lasted only six months because our competition ADM crushed us. They crushed us at six months, but they wrote me a decent check to carry me for about another six months. Because I did a good job in six months, I was a, they're no more than guy. After that, they wrote me a big check. Hey, thanks, but we're going to, we're going to fuel ethanol and we don't need you guys anymore. So it's just me and one other person. So that led me to the point that now here I am, I lost the other one. Yeah, square one again. Square one again, but I had enough money to carry me for about six months. And that six months I was on my fifth month and That's when big C came to my aid so and he called me Out of the blue and we were talking about something hunting and I asked him what he'd been doing because Jeff I haven't heard from you know, why what are you doing? Said I'm out of work. I'm unemployed. He goes Really what are you doing nothing? I'm unemployed. Well, I want to go hunting. I said why ain't got any money? And he goes come to work for me. I said, ah, you know my my side and your side they were actually my customer And he goes, well, can you get me in that business? I said, chief, I, I got to spend money. I ain't worried about that. I got that. I said, well, if you want to try this, because you're employed. We're going to, so in the time that I lost my job and, and got another job in that expense almost year and I went through everything I had to stay afloat and you're scrambling and it's not as easy as people think but you got to stay somewhat strong and positive. Four months of that year I was not in good shape at all. And after that, the vertical job came, that helped me and that left me, but I would not give up because I, to myself, I went, wow, I got another big job. There's gotta be another one. And then chip hires me. And you know, I know we embellish on chip a lot, but he not only is a good, good friend, he was a good partner in this business, but he was so supportive. He basically invested a lot of money in me personally. And for somebody to do that made me 10 times stronger. And that changed my work ethic, my perspective in life. And he goes, look, we work together, we work as a team. I don't micro-manage, you know what you're doing, you do it and let's just go from there. And he goes, you can't worry about what's gonna happen down the road. You're gonna live for today and you're gonna enjoy every day of it and that came from Chip. All right, if you guys watch this podcast, I think you know me talking about Jordan's obsession with sunglasses. I do. I have a million pair and I just can't stop buying sunglasses. I have all different types, all different price ranges. Well, hopefully this solves your sunglasses problem because we got a new product called Zenny and they make prescription and regular sunglasses for everybody. I love going on their site because I like creating and designing my own things and that's exactly what Zenny's website does. You go on there, you pick your frames,

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together mess 15 for 15% off your very first order. The style is still a quick so don't sit on it that's ZENNI.com slash together mess. That's MESS and promo code together mess 15. Why do you think he took a chance on you? No one knew me personally and him and Philip Siegal and I were friends in the chemical industry for a long time. Because you knew Chip's dad. I knew I did. I used to call on Chip's dad and I love Mr. Bill and Mr. Bill and Chip through the Miriams. They got a father some relationship that I never had growing up. never. And I admire that to this very day, how close they are. And you've heard me mention, well, that's chips on. They had the same relationship. They got a strong family bond. My bond with my family was very loose, non-existent. And unfortunately, your dad was in the Air Force. My dad was in the Air Force for many many retired of full cargo and you know he spent a lot of time you know overseas and you know the only reason we lived in Goldsboro North Carolina actually as see more Johnson and when he went to Okinawa for like four years we didn't go as as during the Vietnam War, if anybody can remember that. And my mom said, you're not leaving me here in Goldsboro. And my mom was from Texas. And so we moved to Raleigh, North Carolina in 1916, June of 1969. But getting back, chip hired me. And after six months, we started growing in the HCl market that I sell and I have a lot of knowledge of and from there the rest is history and But my friendship with chip has always been there for 25 for about 30 years But the thing about it is chip entrusted me with a lot of money and You said just make it happen and don't worry about how it happens do do what you know You can do and have fun doing it actually chip is younger than me by About eight years I think maybe maybe eight or eight about eight years. And the knowledge and the sincerity with CHIP is unbelievable because he's a promoter of people. He's a big promoter. If when he sees something that he knows is right, he will join. He's not scared to invest in anything that he thinks is good for the individual and for the company and You got to admire a person like that because he took a big chance with me He knew what I could do. He liked me, but still again. This is a business that he barely Participated him because he was my customer. I mean, we sold. But did you, were you ever like nervous? Because you felt like a lot was weighing when you, this guy's taking a chance on me. I promised him that I can do this. Were you like, I'm going to, was there any doubt? Like, oh, what if I, what if I can't do this? Absolutely not. I knew what my capabilities were and I knew I was going to be in the same field and I wasn't changing fields. And when you know something, it's like anything. If you're good at what you do, you stay with that. Now, there's nothing wrong with going against the grain and trying another field. There, look, I did good at vertical North America, say, I'll sell them fuel ethanol, but it was something that in the chemical side, I didn't go out of the chemical industry. I stayed within the chemical industry. Chip made industrial chemical company, made me better than I ever have been because he took all the weight off my shoulders and said, go do it. Like you own this company, go do it. The best way you can. I'll support you 100%. And if you're out there and you're having a tough time, believe me, I've been there. I've been to the very bottom of hell and to where I didn't think I'd ever come out of it. If it wasn't for Max telling me to quit, put Boo Day in and Gays and that's Poutin and and pull you down big boy pants up. Get out there and start working and and stay in your field and stay what you're doing. They got to have people like you. It just can't cast you out and you're not gonna get a job. When Jeff first found out about his job, you were really good. It was really good talking to you. You were my person, I always went to, and you would say this is how he's feeling. You be patient with him. You be sensitive with him, because this is what he's going through in emotions. And you were very helpful about that, because you experienced the same thing around the same age, all of that. And I know this was almost a year ago when Jeff lost his job. I'm just saying, you're like my person that I always go to about finance, anything with financial questions or, I don't know, just life. And I think that's what everybody does. You just go to your parents for things like that. But you've always, I can get super moody. That's just my personality. And I can get super negative. And I, yeah, civil comes out. And I get, I can get really down on myself and compare myself a lot of times. Like I'm not as good as these people or I can't do this. sometimes I give myself that doubt, but then I'll talk to you and then it's like, brrr, then I, and then I pump back up, but you do, you get down, there's so many now, there's so many podcasters out there, there's so many influencers out there, There's so many people. It's oversaturated

that you can compare and you can think, I'm not as good as everybody else. Well, you know, I look at life in a different way now. I do. I mean, Jordan's right. You know, in my 40s and 50s, up to my 50s, I pretty good. I thought, you know, I was invincible. Do what I want. And, but when you, when you have, when you end up at the very bottom of the well, and you know that you got to go 80 feet to the top, you could do one or two things. You can sit at the bottom and whine about it and not try to work your way out of it and you sit there and die down there or you can pull yourself up, climb up that well, do the best you can at what you know and work your way through every issue and problem. There's another thing that I've lived through is that you got two things in life. If you can either be sad or you could be happy. I'd rather be happy. And we all get sad. Believe me, we all have down moments and emotional moments. But 80% of your time, try to fuel that energy and be in a happy person. And yeah, Jordan's right, yeah, I am a giver. I have been a giver since you've known me. But I think it's the way you grew up. You were never given anything. No, no, I was no. Your dad wasn't the nicest to you. No, my dad was a rough man. I never had a relationship. My parents got divorced when I was 14. And my brother, my brother, be honest with you, we had a pretty good size house growing up. And my brother, he actually, if I actually had a problem, I could actually call my brother. A lot of people think my brother and I probably didn't have a relationship, but my brother was very, very smart. And I always would go to my brother. The other thing I had growing up, even though I really didn't have a good tight knit with my parents, it's not that I didn't think wrong, they were always in turmoil. And it was not a a good turmoil and it was tough. But I had good friends. You've heard me mention my best friend Rodney. He took care of me. My brother would take care of me and believe it or not, I had a a girl that I dated in junior high and high school if you believe is her name was actually Judy Judy's parents took me in like they adopted me and they took care of me. Oh, I didn't mean for you to cry. Me and my dad we've been really emotional today. There's a lot. Okay. How do you mean to go there? I'm not crying. I'm not watered. I know. I got a I think I got a pink eye now. I told you you guys I have a sty. Now I got a crusty pink eye and my doctor's office doesn't call me back. Yeah, and I think it's for crying. You know, let me tell you you know, I told you guys I have a sty. Now I got a crusty pink eye. And my doctor's office doesn't call me back.

Yeah, but I think it's from crying. You know, let me tell you, you know, I mentioned Judy John. I want, I probably, well, Judy knows who she just lives down there in Wilmington. I think she's in Wilmington now, but we still stay in contact. Good. great family but her parents. Yeah. Help you. Yeah. That's good. Well, okay. Dad. Thanks. We should have a mark right now. I do get emotional. I do get emotional at times, especially when you talk about things that are passed, but I don't dwell on the past. I actually, uh, I'm actually happy. You're good, you're better off. But the people that have helped me the most are the people that I've actually told you about. Shit. I feel like you gravitate towards your friends. Your friends are your family. And I feel like I do the same thing. And I feel like you are kind of like what you're around and what you see. And I feel like I'm a lot like my dad in a lot of ways. And you are, I feel like I do that with my friends. Like when you are my friend and I am 100% loyal to you, you are like my family, my sister. There's a couple people that I've met here in Colorado that I am like, you are my sister and I would do anything for you because I don't have family here. And you always did that with your friends. Yeah. You spent holidays with your friends. You know, I tell you something that many of y'all will know this. When you grow up and you're in junior high, you're in high school, those bonds that you have with the people that you literally grew up with, and now you're off to college, and you got your college friends. The friends from junior high and high school will always be in your wheelhouse and will always have your back. Yeah. And Rodney and I have been close in 73. Actually, I had a crush on Rodney sister, Melster. And Melster was hot. But Melster knew I was two damn wild and two damn crazy and she was not going there. That movie fast times that Rich My High makes me think of you and your friends. Oh my God. I mean, I was guys. I was 15 years old. I know. Yeah, I was 15. And in North Carolina, you could drink beer at 18. And we didn't have liquor by the drink. So I was drinking at 13, 14. Rodney got me a fake ID. And here we are. I I met these same bars with 18 20 21 20 years old and used to love to play Fuzball go see bands and You gotta remember my family wasn't really around so I Came home went home whenever I wanted and and then I remember one time I was at a bar and playing food ball with this girl and we had fun and she goes and I was tired she said she let me stay or don't and I got up and I said dude I gotta go to class she goes I just walked to class I said what do you mean she goes said, you got to drive me. And she goes, no, you got to go, where, where are you going? Which building? She said, dude, I'm in high school. She goes, what? High school. How old are you? 16? She goes, oh my God. Get out of here. And she kicked me out of the building. And I called Who Rodney Rodney. He goes, yeah, you got to come get me. I said, I'm the work. I said, dude, she kicked me out of her. You went home with her. Said you went home. You said you had to go to work. I just spent the night of learning she kicked me out. I don't have why I go to class. He goes goes, do this halfway across town. I said, please come get me. And he came to me. On that note, okay. One thing, because we're gonna do some voicemails, but I want you to give one last thing to everybody. Anybody struggling going through a hard time right now, financially, you know, divorce, any of that. What's your advice? You know, let's start with the divorce part. Always take the high road and do your best to respect your family. And that's very, very important. You know, if there's children involved, believe me, they are crushed while you're going through this. So just best of saying is just because, proceed with caution. financially, hey, there is hope out there. There's help. There's hope. You know, stay close to anybody that is very positive in your life. Stay with them. Listen to them. They will help you through the hard times. Good. All right. So we're going to do two recordings here. People call in because I asked for people to leave some audios. And then here we go. This is just big sexy. Across them for a big sexy, A, would you do senior big brother or even just regular big brother, and S.O. Find me up. Thank you. Would you do senior, let me play it again, make sure I understood it right. Across them for a big brother, A, would you do senior big brother or even just regular big brother, and S.O. Find me up, thank you. Would you do senior Big Brother? Would you do like a Big Brother all seniors now? There's like a golden bachelor and it's all people like your age. No, no, I don't think I would. No, that wouldn't be my cup of tea. You know, I'm not doing Big Brother at all. space with shower and where everybody can everybody sees shower. You know how you can see about a little bit of buzz you need. Now that's enough for me. Okay. Okay, next one, big sexy. Third morning, Jeff and Jordan and Riley and team and big sexy, I believe you're in town. Also, this is Lisa again, I have called a beep or and I just love you guys but a couple different things. We are talking about big brother and Jeff talked about there really should be a show or some sort of documentary about coming off a big brother on the whole thing what it takes to to put on big brother. Maybe that's something that you a network should put together and maybe could do a deep dive into that. Just a thought. But also just I just wanted to send Jeff a big hug. I'm sure they're, you know, I'm not sure what's going on, but obviously there's something going on. in your just giving you a big hug and hoping everything works out and another thing is Jeff I agree with you people are jerks on the road they don't say thank you anymore if you let them through I don't know what people have just gone nuts but yes they don't say thank you when you let them through and another thing so, so this question is for big sexy. So out of the boys, when you're with the two boys, when you're with loss and in the latent, when you're with them, which what is one of them do, or maybe both of them do, that just really reminds you of Jordan when she was their age. I'd love to hear a little story when you see the two and how they remind you of your little girl when she was little. All righty, will you guys have a good day, Jeff again sending you the biggest hug? All right, take care guys, bye-bye. Thank you, Lisa, for sending that in and for calling in. Yes, Jeff always says, it is behind the scenes, big brother is so awesome. How they put that show together. My dad was actually there when we got engaged. Hardly anybody ever gets to see behind the scenes like that. It's so cool. And yes, somebody needs to pick that up and do a documentary one day when Big Brother is said and done. And then answering her question about the boys, anything. You always say, late and you're like late and it's just you because. Yeah, late and goes a hundred thousand miles a minute. He's he wants to do something all the time. And, you know, Jordan, when she was little, was very active, but Lawson, on the other hand, reminds me more of the way Jordan was, because Lawson really likes to be loved on. I think he loves us. He loves it and by, you know, Latens, but Jordan was independent as a child, very independent, Latens very independent, but as the day goes on, then Lawson actually likes to sit by and talk to you and it's not as hyper. But then, you know, when nighttime comes, they both sort of settle down, but they both together have different ways of showing me how they were like Jordan. Number one, Layton likes to go, go, go. Jordan likes to go, go, go. But Lawson, Lawson was lovable in the evenings and he's more personal. And I see more of Lawson in Jordan when Jordan gets older because Jordan's really, she's a caring person. Jordan actually is very caring. She grew out of the wild stage. Yes, not being civil. Okay, and then. Not doing so. That is correct, not down-cible. And then the question about Jeff, I know you all know something's going on. Jeff will talk about it whenever he's ready to discuss it. Again, like I said on the last podcast, prayers and hugs out to Jeff's family right now. They could use all of that right now, but not getting into that because I'll cry. Okay. Going to read the quote that we always do. This is the beginning of a new day. You have been given this day to use as you will. You can waste it or use it for good. What you do today is important because you are exchanging a day of your life for it. When tomorrow comes, this day will be gone forever. In its place is something that you have left behind. Let it be something good. That is our quote of the day. I hope you all have a wonderful

week. Thank you for downloading, subscribing, um, tagging your friends. Keep telling your friends about it. Thank you to my dad, Big Sexy for coming on and being a host and helping me out while Jeff is gone and just thank you guys and I will see you later.

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