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Hello, and welcome back to Big Mood, Little Mood. I'm your host, Danny Lavery, and with me

in the studio this week is Ty Mitchell, a writer and former gay porn performer based in Brooklyn,

New York. He's written for the new inquiry and Buzzfeed, and you can read his newsletter

the first openly gay book club at firstopentlygay.substac.com. Ty, welcome to the show.

Thank you. Thanks for having me. Am I the big mood or the little mood in this equation?

That is entirely up to you. You tucked your shirt in today, so you came correct. Which one

would you like to be?

I think that makes me the little mood.

Then you can be the petite mood if you want. You can be the little mood. The chic mood.

Yeah, and I will be the robust mood. We were just before we started recording the

show talking about the most important kinds of compliments we can get, because I have

a shirt on that usually, if I'm walking past a butch who works in a kitchen out on her

smoke break, if she sees it, she says to me, nice shirt, and that's my brass ring. Is

there like a particular level of either people who work in kitchens, types of lesbians,

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