Hi, my name is Lewis Howes and welcome to the Daily Motivation Show.

What should we judge ourself worth on?

The value we have in the lives of others.

Do other people think of you as a good friend, a good sibling, good son or daughter, you know, a good father, a good

mother, good colleague, good teammate. I'd rather judge myself on that. And again, we're dopamine,

tangible, driven animals. It's much easier to judge myself based on number in a bank account because I can

see it and I can count it. And if there's a lot in there must be valuable, that there's little in there that must be unvaliable, which is nonsense, because I can tell you I know a lot of rich people who have no value in the world. And I think we have all of these metrics screwed up and they're all based on what I can count and what I can see, rather than the value I have in the lives of others. And by the way, you don't even get to judge that.

Because the only way you know you have value in the lives of others is if others say you have value in their lives.

Right. You mentioned about, you know, we shouldn't be focusing on a good day being on how productive we are.

Yeah. We should have a different metric of what a good day is. How do we measure what a good day is then if it's not a productive day? So this is the problem with things that are hard to measure. It doesn't mean they don't exist. It just means they're hard to measure. You're in love with your girlfriend. Show me the metric. Show me the number that proves to me that she is the love of your life. Well, you can't. You can show me a bunch of behaviors, and I can ask her if she feels secure, she feels safe, she was seen and heard, if she feels she can be her best self because the space you provide her. But I got no number. So just because you can't measure something or just because something's difficult to measure doesn't mean it doesn't exist. That's an important lesson. I learned that in my career, too. I had this meeting at the Pentagon, sitting in the foyer, waiting for the

general to come and bring when he was ready to see me. We've all had this experience where you're

waiting in a foyer, waiting in a waiting area, and somebody will come and get you, and they take you

to the conference room with the office

and because being quiet is uncomfortable we fill the dead air how's your day exactly what's

going on exactly exactly how's your flight so hot out here so hot out exactly and the minute you walk in the

office it just stops nobody actually cared well that's what happened to me the general came to get me

we start walking to

his office and the hallway talk begins and he says you know simon i had everybody in my office read your book

and i said my publisher thanks you and he said tell them not to bother i had them read my copy total book sales

one total impact huge compared to i go to an event and they give away 500 free copies of the book, total book sales

500, but they use them as door stops and coasters, total impact zero.

Maybe three or four people read it, right?

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