So tonight we're doing a holiday check-in. I like to do a webinar every holiday season for those of us who have struggled with codependency and are trying to become more responsible for ourselves, less enmeshed with other people, feel less responsible for other people's actions and less enabling. When you're codependent, you generally tend to worry more about

what other people think about you than what you think about you. You may have come from an alcoholic

home or perhaps a home where your parents were narcissistic. You were treated with indifference,

or maybe your parents were codependent or one of your parents was

disordered or there was an addiction present it's important to remember that none of this is your fault

and the holidays can be a particular peculiar time a difficult time for those of us who struggle

with codependency because of family dynamics right

if you came from a dysfunctional home you know that most of the time there was the no talk rule

you are essentially taught that you're not allowed to talk about anything that goes on

inside the home outside of the home if you are are codependent, you are in a one-sided

relationship. You cater to the needs of other people. You subjectate your needs for your partner,

and the relationship is off balance. And if you're in a codependent marriage this is what you're

representing to your children and they do absorb this way of relating so I have

created a document or things that I want to go through and after I run through

the presentation then I will be taking your phone calls live so let's get

started so codependency implies that we have some kind of a reliance on another person.

It is essentially a problem with the way that we relate to others and ourselves that is rooted in childhood.

Feeling unseen, unnurtured, invalidated, and treated with indifference can create identity issues that manifest as codependency and represent

themselves as codependent relationship patterns. So codependency is not a personality disorder.

It's not disorder. It's not recognized by the DSM. However, it can overlap with attachment disorders and dependent personality disorder.

Those diagnosed with attachment disorders and personality disorders will often suffer

from codependency symptoms.

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