Hello to the dearest pod squad and welcome back to We Can Do Hard Things. As you may have

noticed, we are living in a moment where so much is being asked of us. Morally, politically,

emotionally, it feels like the world is on fire and it is. And somehow the expectation is that

we keep showing up everywhere for everyone all at once and that we do it seamlessly.

Here's what I am remembering and what this conversation will help you remember.

If we are going to stay awake in the world, we also have to stay loyal to ourselves

because burnout, resentment, that quiet rage, that simmers inside, it's not a personal failure. It's just often a

boundary that hasn't been spoken yet. And guess what? Even now, even now, maybe especially now,

we get to have boundaries. So today we're bringing back this conversation with Nedra Glover-Tawab

because in a time when everything feels urgent, learning how to say no might actually

be the most important way to be able to say yes to what matters most, to be responsible, which does

not mean answering for everything. To be responsible means to be able to respond to what was meant

for you. In this episode, we talk about how every single

one of us is deeply, beautifully needy. And not only is that not a problem, it's the starting

point for a life that is honest and sustainable. We talk about how to stop building a legal case

for your needs and just say like a kindergartner, that hurt. I don't like that. I need this instead.

And we talk about how boundaries aren't walls. They are instructions for how to love and be

loved without disappearing. Listen to that again, boundaries aren't walls. They're actually bridges

that teach people how to reach us safely.

So if you're tired, if you're stretched thin, if you are trying to hold the world together

and losing yourself in the process, welcome.

Sit down.

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