Your fantasies are the clue.

You know, so even if you don't know what the wounds are and you never figure out what

the wounds are, your fantasies show you what the turn-ons are.

And you might get a lot of healing from your core wounds without ever having to go to therapy

if you have the sex that you're looking for.

Amazing.

Yeah, because there's such a deep self-acceptance that comes from it, your worth goes up,

you feel in control of your life in a different way if you really get these fantasies met.

And so it's very healing even if you don't go to therapy.

I love this.

You're listening to Sex with Emily.

I'm Dr. Emily and I'm here to help you prioritize your pleasure and liberate the conversation

around sex.

So when do you actually want to feel during sex?

Have you ever thought about that?

On today's best-up episode, my friends and teachers, Celeste Hirschmann and Danielle

Harrell co-authors of coming together, embracing your core desires for sexual fulfillment

and long-term capability, help reveal your core desires, your personal, psychological

motivation for having sex.

Do you ever think about why you actually are having sex?

And then how to get that feeling in the moment.

Celeste and Danielle and I talk about how sex can be a medicine for old wounds we felt

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