Best of Brunch Talk: Should You Wait for Them To Be Ready?

Dateable: Your insider's look into modern dating and relationships

Yue Xu and Julie Krafchick

Relationships, Sexuality, Science, Social Sciences, Health & Fitness, Society & Culture

4.5 • 877 Ratings

🗓️ 6 July 2025

⏱️ 20 minutes

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Summary

We're back with some of our most popular #brunchtalks and a question we always get is: what should I do if they say they like me but they just aren't ready right now for a relationship? Should I stay and give it more time or just let it go? In this week's #brunchtalk episode, we're discussing how to navigate this tricky situation, especially when it's more of an external factor keeping your relationship from progressing. We discuss the pros/cons of waiting for someone to get their sh*t together, how to reframe the situation to focus on your prioritizing your own needs, and ways to let someone go (even if it's incredibly difficult!) to find the person that's ready and able.

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Transcript

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0:00.0	Hi, I'm Ui Shoe.
0:02.3	And I'm Julie Craftchick.
0:03.9	We're active daters turned dating insiders.
0:06.4	Here to dive into everything, modern dating, and relationships.
0:10.1	Welcome to Datable.
0:18.4	Hello, friends.
0:19.6	Welcome to another episode of brunch talk. I am so hungry for another great dating
0:24.6	question. You are hungry now? And get it up. Are you all hungry at home too for some dating
0:30.0	conundrums that we're going to get to the bottom of and try to give some perspective to?
0:36.4	We've spoken to thousands of daters. So we've seen almost every
0:41.1	configuration, every scenario there is. For you all to know that whatever you're going through,
0:46.1	you're not alone. And also, whatever you're going through, we have a framework for you to think
0:51.3	about so that you can find your way out of the conundrum.
0:55.4	Honestly, when we started Datable, I feel like one of the biggest aha moments for me was,
1:01.6	I'm not the only one dealing with this. So I think for so long, like before podcasts were readily
1:08.2	available, like you were kind of in your own silo.
1:11.9	Yeah.
1:12.2	And I was like around all these like friends that had figured it out.
1:15.5	And I'm just like, what's wrong with me?
1:17.0	Like, why can't I get a third date?
1:18.7	So I'm really glad that we're able to normalize a lot of these questions.
1:22.8	And we're going to normalize this question because we know for sure you're not alone in what you're going through.
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