Every good athlete needs a coach and your child needs you to help them

discover their strengths and weaknesses. None of us are self-made successes and

your parenting is vital. I'm Jean Fuller joined in the

studio by Dr Danny Huerta. He leads our parenting department here and we're going to

hear more from Dr Kevin Lehman today as he talks about how your birth order influences

your personality. Here he is with Jim Daly and me picking up where we left off last time,

discussing reasons kids sometimes act up.

I do remember a time when our oldest was I think seven or eight and he just was consistently misbehaving.

It was kind of uncharacteristic and Jim you've heard me share this story before I actually talked to one of our

Counselors here at focus on the family and we met with with her and she dismissed me and talked to our son for a little bit and then brought me back in and she said well dad I think I think he's really just wanting you you're really really busy and he's feeling like he's not getting you

so I think there are times don't you think when when kids do misbehave and it really

is just cry for help you know what I'm just not pouring in like a can so what's the purpose of nature of a child eight or nine years old

misbehaving my point would be well he's probably an attention getter. To it, he needs more time with you.

Couldn't verbalize it, though. Sometimes kids are revengeful.

Our persons are full of people who grew up feeling hurt by life and things happen to those kids should have never happened to a kid.

But they did happen. There was no rescue plan.

No one came alongside of them.

No one brought them to Christ.

You know, they just went off on their own.

And their whole thing is being vengeful toward other people.

They're hateful toward other people.

Well, the world they grew up and was hurtful.

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