And so we say it this way what's going on within your spouse's heart matters more than

what's going on between the two of you. So say that again what's going on within

your spouse's heart matters more than what's going on between the two of you.

If I prioritize what's going on within Christie's heart, what's going on between the two of us

will take care of itself, because we will find a way to resolve it because she will

feel seen and now all of a sudden we're put on the same team.

That's Dr Josh Strub describing how you can be on the same team with your spouse.

Welcome to another edition of Focus on the Family with Jim Daly.

Today we're featuring a panel discussion with Josh and his wife, Christie, and our host, Jim and his wife Christy and our host Jim and his wife Jean on the topic of marriage and how to create a better connection between a husband and wife.

You know, John, over the years here at Focus, we've shared, I think, a lot of good conventional

wisdom about marriage, like having a regular date night and the importance of love and

respect in your relationship, and of course the classic communication and you've got to communicate well as a couple

to succeed. All of that is rock solid advice but I was

was fascinated by a recent conversation that we recorded with Josh and Christie

where they shared some new insights that I'd never considered before.

We were at the Broadmoor Hotel here in Colorado Springs, which is a great

spot to come and hang out if I can encourage you to do that. And we were at our

focus marriage retreat and as you said, John, my wife Jean joined us. I'd laugh because it's always good guys to have your

wife at a marriage conference well Jim you haven't said that to me all those little

fractures in your relationship but but it's fun and we enjoy it and it was a

great group of people and I know you're going to find this content helpful in your

relationship your marriage and I'm eager to share it today.

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