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The Longest Shortest Time

Becoming a Single Dad While Trans

The Longest Shortest Time

Hillary Frank | QCODE

Health & Fitness, Sexuality, Parenting, Kids & Family

4.84.2K Ratings

🗓️ 22 August 2018

⏱️ 29 minutes

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Summary

The thing CJ Kemal wants most in life? To be a dad. But when you’re trans and single, it’s hard to know where to start. To join the conversation, go to longestshortesttime.com! Sign up for our newsletter. Follow us on Instagram. This episode is brought to you by Google Play, Happier with Gretchen Rubin, Land’s End (code: SCHOOL40), Care.com, and Burrow (code: LONGSHORT75). Also, Hillary Frank's Weird Parenting Wins book is coming! Many of you are in it. Pre-order here.

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0:00.0

When I was about seven or eight, my school teacher asked me, well, I was asking the

0:11.6

class what we wanted to be when we grew up, and I said I wanted to be a dad.

0:15.8

This is aspiring parent, CJ Camel.

0:17.8

I wanted to be a parent for as long as I can remember, actually.

0:21.6

It's the only job I've ever wanted to do.

0:24.6

But no one was expecting CJ to say dad, especially that teacher.

0:29.7

I mean, firstly, I went to a girl school so that she thought I was kidding.

0:35.9

She put me out of the class, but I was being deadly serious.

0:38.2

Like, I didn't...

0:39.2

There was nothing else I could think of that I wanted to be.

0:40.8

I just wanted to be someone's dad.

0:42.4

Why dad?

0:43.4

I'll ask myself that.

0:46.6

Because as a kid, I didn't know that I was trans, but I didn't...

0:52.0

Saying mum felt wrong, like that wasn't who I wanted to be to my kids.

0:57.2

I wanted to be...

0:58.2

I wanted them to call me dad.

1:02.0

When CJ was growing up in Trinidad, that image of being a father was so vivid.

1:07.0

I kept coming up.

1:08.2

Like, the time a teacher asked, I run a class to draw their future family.

1:12.0

It was like...

1:14.0

You know, typical kids' family picture, like a house in the background.

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