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The Longest Shortest Time

Becoming a Single Dad While Trans

The Longest Shortest Time

Hillary Frank | Realm

Kids & Family, Sexuality, Parenting, Health & Fitness

4.74.2K Ratings

🗓️ 22 August 2018

⏱️ 29 minutes

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Summary

The thing CJ Kemal wants most in life? To be a dad. But when you’re trans and single, it’s hard to know where to start. … Join LST+ for community and access to You Know What, another show in the Longest Shortest universe! Follow us on Instagram Website: longestshortesttime.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0

When I was about seven or eight, my school teacher asked me, well, I was asking the

0:11.6

class what we wanted to be when we grew up, and I said I wanted to be a dad.

0:15.8

This is aspiring parent, CJ Camel.

0:17.8

I wanted to be a parent for as long as I can remember, actually.

0:21.6

It's the only job I've ever wanted to do.

0:24.6

But no one was expecting CJ to say dad, especially that teacher.

0:29.7

I mean, firstly, I went to a girl school so that she thought I was kidding.

0:35.9

She put me out of the class, but I was being deadly serious.

0:38.2

Like, I didn't...

0:39.2

There was nothing else I could think of that I wanted to be.

0:40.8

I just wanted to be someone's dad.

0:42.4

Why dad?

0:43.4

I'll ask myself that.

0:46.6

Because as a kid, I didn't know that I was trans, but I didn't...

0:52.0

Saying mum felt wrong, like that wasn't who I wanted to be to my kids.

0:57.2

I wanted to be...

0:58.2

I wanted them to call me dad.

1:02.0

When CJ was growing up in Trinidad, that image of being a father was so vivid.

1:07.0

I kept coming up.

1:08.2

Like, the time a teacher asked, I run a class to draw their future family.

1:12.0

It was like...

1:14.0

You know, typical kids' family picture, like a house in the background.

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