Hi, my name is John Kim. I'm a therapist who went through his own

rebirth many years ago and I've been documenting my journey ever since sharing my life

lessons and revelations. I believe in casual or clinical with you instead of at you. I come unrehearsed on purpose

because self-help doesn't have to be so complicated.

Okay, this podcast I wanted to start with my own story. I wanted to start with my

long stretch of being single on purpose. After my divorce I was 35 and I had nothing. I had no friends. I had no

money. I was, I just started working in nonprofit on my journey to becoming a therapist.

And I was lonely, I was discouraged felt old I felt defective because society stamps

divorced on your head when you get divorced right and I was lost I was, I didn't know where to start.

And so the first thing I did when I was single is I said, okay, how can I start connecting to me? How can I live a life or actually build a life that feels honest to me because I've been living mostly pseudo. I've been seeking

approval validation. I've been chasing a poster that wasn't honest to me.

And so I thought about this concept of your solid self

and it's something I learned in therapy school. And I asked myself, what does that look like to pull from my solid self which is your authentic

self not your pseudo self your pseudo self is the approval seeking side of you and the thing is that your

solid self is usually the quiet whisper because we don't listen to our solid

self we usually listen to our pseudo self, we usually listen to our pseudo self, which has been tainted by

should and advertising and, you know, programming.

And the pseudo self is the thundering voice.

The solid self is a quiet whisper.

And so what I did was I said, okay, I'm going to wake up every day

and I'm going to start listening to the quiet whisper.

And over time, this really changed my life.

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