Balancing Family Dynamics AND Your Relationship

ShrinkChicks

Jennifer Chaiken, LMFT and Emmalee Bierly, LMFT

Mental Health, Education, Health & Fitness, Society & Culture, Self-improvement, Relationships

5 • 717 Ratings

🗓️ 17 February 2025

⏱️ 47 minutes

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This week on ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are talking all about balancing family dynamics along with your relationship with your significant other. They're also discussing this from YOUR perspective and the balance that your significant other strikes between you and their family of origin. They cover topics like the natural insecurity in the in-law relationship and why it can be harder to set boundaries, speak up, etc., expectations we have about our in-laws, their thoughts on the phrase "blood deals with blood," what to do when your partner prioritizes their family over you, the term "family blindness," and so much more! Tune in to gain insight, awareness, and action! PS: Fast forward to around 8:55 to skip the intro and get straight to today’s content. Get Matched With One of Our Therapists at The Therapy Group! ShrinkChicks on Instagram Our Know Yourself Grow Yourself Journal!! Check out ShrinkChicks on YouTube by subscribing here! https://youtube.com/channel/UCrxuhDqoL4ML3UE8b2J2BBg A special thank you to this week's sponsors for supporting ShrinkChicks! We have these exclusive offers for our listeners: Wildgrain: Get $30 off your first box - PLUS free croissants in every box - when you go to Wildgrain.com/SHRINKCHICKS to start your subscription or use code SHRINKCHICKS at checkout Prose: See the difference custom care can make with 50% off your first haircare subscription order at prose.com/shrinkchicks Ibotta: Ibotta is offering our listeners $5 just for trying it! Go to the App Store or Google Play store and download the FREE Ibotta app to start earning cash back and use code SHRINKCHICKS when you register Quince: Go to quince.com/shrinkchicks for free shipping and 365-day returns on your next order Shopify: Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at shopify.com/shrinkchicks Manscaped: Get 20% off + free shipping with the code shrinkchicks at manscaped.com Hiya: Receive 50% off your first order at hiyahealth.com/shrinkchicks Bilt: Earn points by paying rent right now when you go to joinbilt.com/shrinkchicks

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0:00.0	This podcast is brought to you by Podcast Nation.
0:04.0	What do I do if my partner doesn't see an issue with their family's behavior, but it's affecting me?
0:11.0	I love this question because it's also...
0:14.0	I hate this question.
0:15.0	I know.
0:16.0	Well, I'll tell you, well, I...
0:18.0	Because it's a toughie.
0:19.0	Well, and the reason why I love it is because it's so common.
0:22.2	Yeah.
0:23.5	There's a term called family blind, which means having unwavering loyalty to one's family
0:30.6	often to the point of overlooking negative behaviors or flaws within the family unit,
0:35.8	especially being blind to any issues that might damage
0:38.6	the family dynamic, even if they are serious or harmful.
0:41.8	And it implies a refusal to critically evaluate family actions due to a strong desire to
0:47.2	maintain harmony and loyalty.
0:51.8	And so I think something that so often happens is that when we get in a relationship, when we get married, we bring someone else into that family dynamic and they see so much shit that we don't say so much.
1:08.4	You're blind, but they can see, baby.
1:20.7	Yeah. So much. You're blind, but they can see, baby. Welcome back to another episode of shrink chicks.
1:23.4	Take a seat on our virtual therapy couch and get ready to learn all about, well, you.
1:28.5	I'm Emily Beirley.
1:29.6	And I'm Jennifer Chakin.
1:30.9	And we're both licensed, marriage and family therapist and relationship experts.
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