Hey, this is Leo, for Actualize.org.

And in this video, what I want to talk talk about bad relationships.

Why do you keep getting into a bad relationship

and how can you prevent that cycle from continuing?

So we want to dig deep into what causes bad relationships and why you seem to keep stumbling into them.

Now what I'm talking about here is specifically bad intimate relationships, right?

Disfunctional intimate relationships, whether it's a marriage or long-term girlfriend

boyfriend situation or even a short-term girlfriend-boyfriend situation.

So let's take a look at some of the distinctions that are necessary to really get

your head around this and to prevent this from happening again.

The most important distinction, and I believe this is coming from Stephen Covey, I can't

quite remember, is the distinction between co-dependent,

independent, and interdependent relationships.

See, co-dependency is the problem here.

This is where you are at if you have problems with your relationship

and you keep getting bad relationships is that you're probably in this co-dependency frame.

Now let's go through and talk about each one of them and show you how they evolve one into the next.

So first what you've got is you've got codependency.

Co-dependency means that you have two people that are coming together and they're leaning on each other for support.

And what they're doing here is they're using each other as emotional crutches.

Now they'll justify it to themselves as love or as companionship or something good, but in fact what's happening

there is that each one has a void that they're trying to fill in each other's lives and so they're

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