Actor/Writer/Podcaster and self-proclaimed bad lesbian Lauren Flans (Coming Out Pod, Wild 'n Out) joins us to talk about all the ways in which we feel like we're failing our identity. Astrology? Bah humbug. Cats? Allergic. Friends? Mostly cishet dudes. But are these really pillars of lesbianism that we need to shame ourselves for not meeting, or are they dated generalizations that no longer apply? Plus, Carolyn and Melody dyke out about our duty to do all we can for racial justice at this pivotal moment, and as long as those injustices exist. -This episode is sponsored by Out & About CBD. Enter code DO25 for 25% off your purchase! If you're looking for places to donate to help in the fight for racial justice, here are some we like. Remember that this is going to be a long fight to see the changes that need to happen to end police brutality and change our criminal (in)justice system here in the US: DEFUND THE POLICE RESOURCE FROM MPD150 NATIONAL RESOURCE LIST HOMELESS BLACK WOMEN TRANS FUND BLACK-LED LGBTQ ORGS GOFUNDME FOR BREONNA TAYLOR EMERGENCY RELEASE FUND -Check out an extra, exclusive Q&A with Lauren by joining our Patreon community or becoming a member on Himalaya. We use the money for equipment, studio rentals, editing, mixing, travel for live shows, and more! If you can't support the pod on a monthly basis, please consider tipping us through Paypal. We truly appreciate it! -For related content, follow us on Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, and Leave Us a Review if you like what you hear! -We've got new MERCH. -Have a question that you need answered ASAP? Check us out on WISIO. -Like our theme song by There Is No Mountain? Subscribe to our composer/mixer's youtube channel for more beats and mixes. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices