Back to Basics: Understanding All Things Attachment with Ann & Sue (209)
Therapist Uncensored Podcast
Sue Marriott LCSW, CGP & Ann Kelley PhD
4.7 • 1.5K Ratings
🗓️ 18 July 2023
⏱️ 47 minutes
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Summary
Wanting to learn more about attachment? This is the episode for you!
This is a follow-up to our previous episode on recognizing secure states of mind. If you’re a regular listener, you know we talk a lot about attachment – but what is it exactly? This episode is a
refresher course where we break down what it is, what it isn’t, attachment spectrums, embodied stories, and much more. Whether you’re more advanced in your knowledge of the topic or starting fresh – this is a great place to connect and better understand how attachment plays a role in our lives.
“We are social beings, but we have to be social beings. This isn’t a choice, it isn’t an option. And our incredibly intuitive pre-programmed body knows that from in utero on – it’s in our wiring.” – Dr. Ann Kelley
Time Stamps for Attachment Basics
1:17 – What is attachment?
4:29 – Why you should care about attachment
6:07 – Early attachment and its effect on our development
7:46 – Attachment is not the same thing as love
10:16 – Why we want to avoid attachment “categories”
15:29 – Example of embodied stories
20:48 – Understanding the protection system and connection system
26:22 – Utilizing curiosity to build secure attachment
28:01 – What is a coherent narrative?
39:10 – Recognizing patterns in your nervous system behaviors
Resources for Attachment Basics
The Epidemic of Loneliness and Isolation in the United States – Surgeon General Dr. Vivek Murthy Calls for Action to Address Public Health Crisis
John Bowlby’s Attachment theory – A summary of Bowlby’s theory
Mary Ainsworth Strange Situation – A summary of Ainsworth’s theory & experiment
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https://therapistuncensored.com/episodes/secure-attachment/
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https://therapistuncensored.com/episodes/secure-relating-not-the-same-as-secure-attachment-with-ann-sue-190/
https://therapistuncensored.com/episodes/tu-149-modern-attachment-regulation-spectrum-an-integrated-model-of-change/
https://therapistuncensored.com/episodes/tu126-modern-attachment/
https://therapistuncensored.com/episodes/attachment-through-the-lifespan-alan-sroufe/
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| 1:08.1 | Why should you care to learn about attachment? |
| 1:10.3 | Because if you're learning about how your protective system developed, then you're going |
| 1:14.9 | to learn what makes you feel threatened, what makes you respond, and how do you regulate |
| 1:19.4 | yourself? You can learn that these are real patterned things that you do with everybody. |
| 1:25.0 | You know how when you break up and you're like, oh my god, everyone of my partners has |
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