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Hi, Dr. Mona. So my question is actually related to some stories that you did when you were in

telephone with your family and how when seeing grandparents and relatives don't normally see

her child. The schedules can get a little off the black. The kids can kind of get used to

getting their way when they find and getting away with things that the parents wouldn't normally

let them do. But my problem is that our caregiver is my grandmother and she lives with us.

And she has a lot of the same point of view that you have been talking about your parents

happening like just giving whatever you want so you don't mind. And because she's our full-time

caregiver and she lives with us there's definitely this like power struggle dynamic. And we'll try

to talk to her and we'll try to give her you know the rules that we want and it may work for a

little while but then it totally just falls off the way side again. And I'm just wondering if you

have any recommendations for that or if we're giving him you know the attention and the one-on-one

learning and things like that when we're available is it is it really detrimental that he's

kind of getting away with a lot when grandma's around. You know if he seems to be doing okay he

definitely listens to us as his parents when he tells him no but it's just you know it's just

it feels like he's always getting away with things when he's being watched by his grandma and

since that's so much of the time. I'm just wondering if we're really doing any kind of disservice and

we're kind of thinking about putting him in preschool or a daycare kind of session sooner

than we normally would. We have him because of COVID and he is two and a half years old. Thank you so

much for that. Thank you so much for this question and you are right we were in California and now

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