All right team, welcome back to the man talk show.

Today we are going to be talking about avoidant gaslighting, how to spot it and how to stop it.

So this is a common tactic.

Usually it's an inadvertent tactic. This is something that usually

avoidance will deploy, not because they are, I mean, usually they're not trying to harm the

relationship or hurt you or, you know, they're not, oftentimes they're not even intentionally

doing it. And again again it's not to make

excuses for people that are deploying this tactic it is usually a way for them to survive it was usually

was usually a way for them to separate from consequences separate from harm or hurt, and it's usually something that was

taught to them. So a lot of avoidance have grown up in an environment where they observe this

type of behavior deployed as a means of security or safety or some way to absolve themselves of a of a truth, of a responsibility,

of any kind of accountability. So again, that's not to let them off the hook. It's simply saying

that usually this type of behavior, unless they are truly one of the very small percentage

of narcissists or psychopaths that are out there,

usually this type of behavior is a maladaptive behavior that is designed to keep them from

really engaging in a type of accountability and responsibility and usually a type of intimacy

that the truth brings, right? Because usually in a

relationship, the truth and intimacy coincide, right? The more that you can reveal yourself

in a relationship, the more that you are understood, your desires, your wants, your needs,

the more that intimacy can be present. And remember,

for the avoidant person, intimacy, while it's often desired, feels like a threat.

Now, so for the avoidant person, so do other things like responsibility, accountability. Those things can feel like a threat because for a lot

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