This is Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby, and you're listening to the Love, Happiness, and Success Podcast.

There is a powerful communication killer lurking in the subconscious depths of most relationships

called Negative Sentiment Override. Just because you haven't heard of this before doesn't mean that

you're probably not doing it. Most of us are, whether we know it or not. On today's show,

you'll learn how to spot it, stop it, and immediately improve your communication and help your relationship grow.

Our mood music today is the song Get Out from Sally Ford.

I chose this song because I feel like it captures that,

ah, feeling that comes from when you're interacting with somebody who is just being so

frustrating. You can't take it. A.k.a. The specific mental and emotional experience

that is really toxic to having a positive relationship. When you are feeling that way

about your partner, not going to end well.

Communication is not going to feel easy. And that's our topic today. So super cool song. You can

check out Sally Ford, S-A-L-L-I-E-Ford.com for more on that subject. But, you know,

segueuing into our topic, negative sentiment override.

This is what it means is when you're jumping to a negative interpretation about what's

happening, about your partner, about what's being said. It's like the opposite

of taking somebody's good intentions. It's really like kind of looking at a negative

interpretation of a relational situation. and that has consequences.

And it's something that we're all vulnerable to doing

because we do it automatically, we do it unconsciously,

particularly if we've had not so awesome experiences

in our relationship in the past, and everybody in a long-term

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