Author Will Storr: Status Impacts Our Choice Of Sexual Partner! FOMO Can Cause Early Death?!

We Need To Talk with Paul C. Brunson

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Leisure, Relationships, Society & Culture

4.8 • 652 Ratings

🗓️ 17 September 2024

⏱️ 55 minutes

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We Need to Talk: In this episode, Paul dives into the critical role status plays in our relationships. He explores why couples engage in "status games" and how our evolutionary drive for status impacts our pursuit for sexual partners. His guest this week is Will Storr, award-winning journalist and Sunday Times bestselling author of The Status Game, The Heretics, Selfie, and The Science of Storytelling. Together, they unpack how understanding status can help us build stronger, long-lasting relationships. Learn more about Will Storr's work here: https://g2ul0.app.link/lV7aQOFvTMb (00:00) Introduction (1:30) What Is Status and How Do We Define It? (2:23) Why Is Status So Important in Modern Society? (2:58) 1st PTC (3:22) How Status and Connection Impact Happiness (4:15) The Role of High Status in Tribal Societies (5:52) How Status Shapes Our Identity (6:56) The Difference Between Superficial and Meaningful Connections (10:20) 2nd PTC (11:44) Are We Doomed to a Culture of Doom and Gloom? (13:30) How to Handle the Loss of Celebrity Status (16:17) Navigating Multiple Status Games in Life (18:32) Sponsor - Tinder (19:33) The Link Between Status and Suicide: What You Need to Know (21:31) How to Support Someone Losing Their Status (22:24) 3rd PTC (22:54) Is Modern Dating Being Destroyed by Dating Apps? (24:41) Does Social Media Affect How We Behave in Real Life? (26:16) How Status Displays Differ in Hookups vs. Serious Relationships (30:23) 4th PTC (31:41) What Is 'Detect and Protect' Mode in Relationships? (34:44) Why We Crave Connection with the Same People (38:18) Why My Partner and I Decided Not to Have Children (42:51) How Childhood Unhappiness Can Lead to Adult Success (44:22) How to Overcome Jealousy and Insecurity in Relationships (45:48) Why Loving Yourself Is Key to a Healthy Relationship (48:56) The Most Meaningful Conversation I’ve Ever Had (51:42) My Biggest Takeaways From This Discussion -- Tinder: https://tinder.com/en-GB Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	Will Storr is a master storyteller and deep thinker whose work has captivated audiences worldwide.
0:07.7	His insights into the human mind, particularly the role of status, feel like he's offered a cheat code to our lives.
0:16.0	He's written six books, and his research spans 17 years, focusing on the neuroscience behind what drives
0:22.9	a human on a day-to-day basis. He understands what leads to our deep insecurities in what it
0:30.0	really takes to build a long-lasting relationship. In this discussion, we'll peels back the layers
0:36.7	of our innate drive for status and connection,
0:40.9	revealing how these fundamental needs shape our identities, relationships, and our own sense of self.
0:47.9	This conversation promises to challenge your assumptions and provide a roadmap to a fulfilling life.
0:55.0	Before we get into it, I want to ask you for a favor.
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1:19.3	the guests, and let us know who you'd like to see on the show. Thank you. Okay, let's get into the
1:26.6	conversation. So how would you define status?
1:31.2	Yeah, so status has a very bad reputation for various sort of evolutionary reasons. I think the
1:37.9	useful way to see it is that we state as it is our reward for being of value to the human family.
1:44.3	So when we prove ourselves as being a valuable person, people see us as better that we,
1:50.0	we raised in status in their eyes.
1:52.3	And so that's really all it is.
1:53.9	And I think when people think of status, especially in this capitalist world to live in,
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