What's up, Queens? Welcome to the female dating strategy, the meanest female only podcast on the internet.

I'm Roe. And I'm Savannah. So this week, we are going to get attached by talking about attachment theory.

I think this one's a long time coming because a few people have asked us to talk about this.

I mean, I guess we'll get into it in the episode, but I'm somewhat split in terms of how I feel about attachment theory.

I think it can offer a lot of explanation into how and why people behave in relationships and the way they do. But I also think the

theory has its limitations, especially in terms of how it's applied to other people and to the

extent to which it is unchangeable, so to speak. We'll get all into that. I think I'm also concerned

about how gendered it is and how much attachment is nature versus nurture. I think I'm also concerned about how gendered it is and how much it attachment is

nature versus nurture. I think sometimes things get gendered in ways that they shouldn't, while

not examining the cultural forces that influence men or women to behave a certain way. Agreed.

So we'll kick off and we'll just do a brief overview of attachment theory and

you know what it actually is. So attachment theory essentially centres around the idea that

different adults have different attachment styles and an attachment style can be defined as basically a specific pattern of

behaviour in and around relationships that influences the way we approach our relationships

and the way we relate to other people. Now, the important thing to note about attachment style is

that the theory posits that an adult's attachment style is actually set when they are a child

or even like a toddler or a baby, basically in their formative years.

And this attachment style is based on the relationship that child has with their primary caregiver.

And this is where I start to feel like the misogyny starts to creep into psychology here,

because when we talk about primary caregiver, what we're really saying, well and truly is

women, basically, because this theory was developed in the 50s and 60s where women were

doing the child rearing. even in the strange situation,

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