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The Allender Center Podcast

Attachment Stories in Marriage

The Allender Center Podcast

The Allender Center

Psychology, Religion & Spirituality, Mental Health, Christianity, Trauma, Health & Fitness, Theology

4.6628 Ratings

🗓️ 11 February 2023

⏱️ 43 minutes

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Summary

Attachment is an emotional bond we feel with another person who responds to our needs. This begins as an infant as we attach (or fail to attach) to our caregivers then extends into our adult life, often showing up in the ways we relate to others. In today’s episode, Dan and Becky Allender are joined by Steve and Lisa Call from Reconnect Institute to examine how our attachment styles emerge within the context of marriage, how to identify and name those attachments, and how to learn and heal in our most intimate relationships.

 

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0:00.0

Thank you for listening to the Allender Center podcast.

0:06.7

I'm Dr. Dan Allender.

0:08.7

And I'm Rachel Clinton-Centen.

0:10.5

We're fiercely committed to providing hope and healing to a fragmented world.

0:14.7

And restoration for the heart.

0:17.2

Thank you for joining us.

0:18.5

Let's get this conversation started.

0:29.6

Thank you for joining us. Let's get this conversation started. There is nothing more fun than talking about marriage, at least some days.

0:36.9

And my great privilege is to be with my beloved wife,

0:41.9

Becky. Hi, Beck. Hey, so good to be with you. And dear, dear friends and colleagues, Steve and

0:49.0

Lisa call from Reconnect Institute. So fun to work with the two of you as well. So welcome. Thank you.

0:58.0

Great to be here. Thank you. Great to be with both of you. Really looking forward to this conversation.

1:02.2

Well, we're going to jump in to this topic, which sounds perhaps a little bit academic, but it really is and

1:09.4

isn't. And that's the role, the place, the power of attachment.

1:14.3

Like, one of the effects that Becky saw after a number of years of our marriage

1:21.3

is that she suffered for a season of life, significant struggles with asthma.

1:29.6

But our relationship, not because it's perfect, I can promise you that.

1:35.4

But the relationship itself began to change.

1:40.0

Yes, so I could give away my asthma pills of, I don't know, 15 years at least.

1:47.4

Yeah.

1:47.8

So when we begin to talk about attachment, we're talking about something that happens between two people, but in this case, marriage, that changes something of the nature of how we live, how we breathe, about our bodies,

2:06.8

about the very way that we actually take in the world.

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