Psychology in Seattle.

So, Burdo, I want to talk with you today about something that's quite personal to you, I think,

which is about your attachment style, your attachment injuries, and also how that might have led

to addictive behavior or substance use problems, spending compulsions, other kinds of things,

because I think that in our society and even in the clinical world, they don't acknowledge

enough the link between attachment injury, attachment issues with what we might call addictive

behavior, what do you say? Sounds deep and painful. This is the Psychology in Seattle podcast.

I'm your host, Dr. Kirk Honda. This episode is just going to be for pages of the podcast, but first

I have a little bit of intro here to talk about, and I'll have you introduce yourself

again later, Burdo, or for the first time later. So, addiction, according to research,

mounds of research, addiction is absolutely associated with insecure attachment. So,

insecure attachment is when you're mistreated in some way either through being abandoned as a child

or abused as a child, or even if as a child you had loving parents, but they just had a lot

on their plate, maybe they were depressed, maybe they worked a lot, maybe there are too many kids

in the house, which led to you getting a little neglect. You had loving parents, you always knew

your parents loved you, but they just didn't have enough resources to go around, so to speak.

So, that's another deceptive mistreatment that can happen to people. So, as a result of that,

people will grow up with what we call insecure attachment, where people will feel as though they

have a chronic feeling of loneliness or hurt or pain of being rejected or just having to rely on

themselves or something, and they also walk around with low self-esteem sometimes, or they feel bad

about other people, and they have a hard time trusting other people. They have a hard time

reaching out to other people when they're hurting. They have a hard time really internalizing good

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