If I had a choice, I'd choose Love Over Abuse, and I think you would too, and if you

are experiencing both, it may not be abusive, it may be controlling or manipulative, or just

difficult behaviors in a relationship that you care about, head over to lovenabuse.com

or a show about navigating the difficult relationship.

That's my other podcast over there, lovenabuse.com.

Welcome to the overwhelmed brain, where you'll learn to make decisions that are right

for you so that you can create the life you want now.

Hey, this is Paul Coliani, and I'm here to help you learn how to deal with difficult

people and tackle life's challenges without compromising who you are.

The show consists of my personal opinions and is meant for informational purposes only

always seek a professional for your mental health and well-being.

Talk about who you are, I have a message that I want to talk about.

It was in the Facebook group over at the TLB Empowerment Group in Facebook, and this

person wrote how they were a people-pleaser when they were younger, and they would never

stick up for themselves as a result.

That sounds familiar, that is definitely my past too.

And then they grew up and got into an abusive relationship.

One day they said enough is enough and they left for good.

But years later they say, when I stick up for myself it's like fight or flight sometimes.

I have trouble being assertive without being aggressive.

And even when I do well with being assertive, I feel awful afterward.

I end up in this sad haze and question myself and replay everything over and over and

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