Ask Her This

ManTalks Podcast

Connor Beaton

Relationships, Mental Health, Education, Society & Culture, Self-improvement, Health & Fitness

4.8 • 591 Ratings

🗓️ 9 June 2022

⏱️ 10 minutes

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Summary

At the start of a relationship, a lot of men dive headfirst into meeting every need the other person has. There's nothing inherently wrong with that, but when you combine it with cultural messaging that seems to say men shouldn't express (or even have) their own needs in a relationship, it prevents both parties from getting to really know each other. So here's one way to break through that! Did you enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave us a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the self-leadership they’re looking for. Are you looking to find purpose, navigate transition, or fix your relationships, all with a powerful group of men from around the world? Check out The Alliance and join me today. Check out our Facebook Page or the Men's community. Subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | Spotify For more episodes visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	You know, I think in the beginning of every relationship, we as men, maybe not all men,
0:06.3	but for sure most men are sort of prone and happy to kind of go through the motions of
0:13.5	doing whatever the woman wants, right? Maybe not whatever, but we're happy to do things for her.
0:20.5	You know, and culturally and socially,
0:22.4	this is kind of the norm, right? You take her out on a date. You decide where you're going.
0:25.9	You maybe you buy flowers. Maybe you, you know, pick up the tab of coffee. After a couple weeks of
0:31.9	dating, she wants you to come and meet some of her friends. And generally, we're happy to do
0:36.0	those types of things. But I think what we miss out on is how we're happy to do those types of things.
0:43.8	But I think what we miss out on is how we really get to know a woman in the beginning of the dating process. And even in a long-term relationship, you can tell a lot about the woman
0:50.2	that you're with by doing one simple thing that I don't think a lot of people are really talking about. And we're going to talk about it here. So I got this question on Instagram the other day and a guy reached out and said, you know, I'm dating. I've been dating for a couple years now. I've been single. How do I really get to know a woman in the beginning of the relationship? I've seen a lot of terrible advice through pickup scenes.
1:12.1	I've tried it.
1:12.6	It doesn't really work for me.
1:13.9	I just don't know what to do anymore.
1:15.8	So again, I think one of the big things that we're conditioned to do is to go through
1:20.8	this process of really honoring the woman's needs in the relationship, right?
1:26.3	What she wants, what she needs,
1:27.9	you know, generally a lot of guys are happy to do that. And it's what women communicate wanting,
1:33.9	right? And there's sort of this correlation between the more that you can do as a man in order
1:40.2	to provide for her, in order to take care of, in order to make sure that her needs are met,
1:44.9	the more that she raves, right?
1:46.5	The more that she'll tell her girlfriends, how great you are.
1:48.9	And the more she'll tell you how much she likes you
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