ASK Episode: How do I tell my spouse that I was tempted? (From Confession to Connection)

Dear Young Married Couple

Adam & Karissa King

Christianity, Sexuality, Health & Fitness, Religion & Spirituality, Relationships, Society & Culture

4.8 • 871 Ratings

🗓️ 6 February 2024

⏱️ 18 minutes

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How can I bring up that I struggled with sexual temptation during the day other than, ‘Hey babe, I struggled with sexual temptation/pornography today’? 🤷‍♂️ Welcome to another ASK episode, where we answer anonymous questions from YOU, our tribe. This anonymous question was submitted during our VIP Q&A lunch at our EROS conference in Indiana. It’s such a great topic, because people can still continue to struggle with temptation when the secret is out. How can I ask my spouse for accountability without it being… weird? 🤷‍♀️ Hit that play button & let’s dive in. Resources: Transform your marriage at the EROS Conference https://www.dearyoungmarriedcouple.com/eros Submit an Anonymous Question! https://www.speakpipe.com/DearYoungMarriedCouple Stay in Conversation with Us IG: @dearyoungmarriedcouple Website: https://www.dearyoungmarriedcouple.com Email: hello@dearyoungmarriedcouple.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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0:31.4	Welcome to another Ask episode. Here's a question that came in. This person said, how do I bring up
0:37.2	that I struggled with sexual temptation during the day
0:39.6	other than, hey, babe, I struggled with sexual temptation or pornography today?
0:44.3	Very good question.
0:45.8	So this is, it seems like from a person that already has broken trust, things are, were difficult for a while,
0:53.4	and now they're using this as a way of
0:57.2	really reconciling. Like how can he bring up these things? I'm struggling right now as a way
1:03.0	of reassuring her that he's not doing this anymore. It sounds like his wife has asked him
1:08.4	to actually share these things. And maybe that he has, he's struggling
1:13.4	with how to share that effectively so that doesn't trigger her into a whole other episode
1:18.4	of losing trust again. Yes. So our first recommendation here, and we've worked with
1:25.2	thousands of people around broken trust.
1:28.9	I would say that this ought to have been a conversation.
1:33.6	This has to be, we have to be intentional with the conversation with the couple to say,
1:37.7	okay, so you want reassurance.
1:41.4	How can we bring this up in a way that's not triggering for the spouse that had
1:47.5	trust broken on her? Yeah, because reassurance, people think it's like, okay, I'm not doing it.
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