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Welcome to the weekend edition of the Daily Stoic. Each weekday we bring you a meditation inspired by the ancient Stoic, something that can help you live up to those four

Stoic virtues of courage, justice, wisdom, and temperance. And here on the weekend we take a deeper dive into those same topics. We interview Stoic philosophers, we reflect, we prepare, we think deeply about the challenging issues of our time. And we work through this philosophy in a way that's more possible here when we're not rushing to worker to get the kids to school.

We have the time to sing, to go for a walk, to sit with our journals and to prepare for what the future will bring.

Hey, I'm Cassie Depeckle, the host of Wanderies Against the Odds. In our next season, Amelia Earhart wants to make history by flying across the Atlantic alone, but brutal weather and malfunctioning equipment could leave her lost its sea. Listen to Against the Odds on Amazon music or wherever you get your podcasts.

Hey, it's Ryan. Welcome to another episode of the Daily Stoic podcast. As you know, I have two children, I have Clark who's knocking on the door four years old, and I have Jones who is about 13 months now.

My first son, Clark did no sleeping whatsoever. It was a harrowing about two and a half years. And so somebody suggested that we, we check out this new, which sounded insane. It sounded expensive. It sounded like, you know, another one of these things that doesn't do anything.

And, you know, what we were so at the end of our rope and not looking forward to repeating the first go round that we ended up buying one for my son, Jones, and it was just unreal. It's not cheap, but in my experience, it was worth every penny.

And you basically just strap your baby in, they lay on their backs, they can't roll over and it rocks them and they've tracked something like 100 million hours of baby sleep through the app over the years.

And so they can tell sleep patterns, it knows how to rock them just perfectly based on what they need. And you can, it's almost a challenge to let it do what it does, but you'll hear it in the middle of the night, sort of picking up when they're starting to wake up.

And it rocks them back to sleep. And it was just a life changing thing for us. We've now loaned ours to two different friends. And actually the inventor of the snow is today's guest on the podcast, Dr. Harvey Carp, he's an American pediatrician and an expert on babies and toddlers.

He's written a wonderful book called Happiest Baby on the Block and is just a fascinating guy. And I actually, I happen to know his daughter, my wife and I met his daughter many years ago, before we even knew that this new existed.

And, and so I wanted to talk to him about the challenge of parenting, but, but also what you learn as a parent, as a metaphor for some of the ideas in stoicism, we talk about patients, we talk about empathy, we talk about domesticating our emotions.

We talk about how you teach kids to domesticate their emotions. Dr. Carp has all sorts of interesting theories and metaphors that he applies is he talks about in the thing for him, it's all about the metaphor, where is your kid metaphorically at five months old, where they metaphorically at two years old, where they metaphorically at 15 and 20 and 40, where are you metaphorically. And so it's, it's really interesting.

We talk about all this in the episode. And then I bounce through with him some of the commandments we've been doing the 10 commandments for being a great parent, calling that the stoic parent, and you can check out that challenge daily stoke.com slash parent.

It's been one of our most popular challenges so far, I'm really proud of it. It's been really helpful for me. So I run some of those things that by Dr. Carp, I wanted to get his opinion.

And then obviously the stoics talk about parenting. It's the most important job, I think, that a human being ends up having. And so I wanted to talk to him about some of those strategies and theories, how he thinks they check out based on the science.

So it's an interesting conversation. I hope you enjoy it. Listen to Dr. Carp. And of course, if you want to check out our challenge, if you want to, you know, epictetus says like no one can tell you what to do, but they can make you adaptable to circumstances. That's how we've built this challenge. The stoic parent 10 commandments for being a great parent.

Check that out at daily stoke.com slash parent.

So Dr. Carp, it's amazing to talk to you. I thought we'd start with something the UNI had briefly touched on on the phone last time we talked, which is one of the things that I have found so sort of humbling and inspiring, but and also just unusual about being a parent.

And so it's this idea of instosism. It's just it's this connection to this sense that you're a part of something that has happened for as long as there have been people and that you're we are descendants of an unbroken line of other fathers and mothers are we wouldn't be here.

And this is sort of theme you see in the stoics talking about all the time, just that history is the same thing happening over and over again. And I don't know when I read ancient history, I'm just struck always by, you know, it's like Socrates talking about troubles at home and and like the theme of trying to be good at this really hard thing is maybe the most human thing that there is.

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