Ahhahahah aah a Hello. Hello and welcome to another rational face podcast I am Brian Dillman and you are listening to the best podcast on the Blabernacle. Today we have

another installment of the Ask a Mormon Sex Therapist series with myself, Laurel, and Dr. Jennifer Finlison Fife.

Today the discussion centers on two topics.

Rekindling the desire that seems to have been lost soon after marriage and how to think about

fantasy, sexual fantasy, in a monogamous sexual relationship.

As usual, Jennifer tackles these two questions in a way that helps us understand and helps us think about our sexuality.

So let's jump right into it. But. back with Dr. Jennifer Finleston Fife for another round of questions and I'm here with Brian.

Hello and Jennifer.

Hello. So we will just jump in and Brian's got the first question for us.

I'm 26. I've been happily married for four and a half years now. My husband and I were sealed after

married civilly and now we have an 18 month old daughter. Back in 2010, my fiance and I had chastity issues.

So about a month before our wedding I cut off all

physical contact out of fear of messing up. It was a good decision because it worked

but I think it worked too well. Ever since then my sex drive has been zero. I hate sex. It's

100% mental and I can't figure out how to get over it. I know it's okay, I know I should enjoy

it. I've been praying and thinking and trying new things and nothing works.

It causes a huge strain on our marriage. One of us is always having to give in.

I'm constantly dreading him asking for it and he's constantly

wanting it but dreading asking me because he knows I hate it. Please please help me.

I don't want to live our entire lives this way.

Okay, so first maybe what I would respond to in that is that this is not unusual. I have a lot of people who, especially

in the sort of engagement phase, put their sexuality in park, and then they can't get it out of gear once they get

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