ARGUE WELL with this Simple Tool: 5 Quick Steps

Dear Young Married Couple

Adam & Karissa King

Christianity, Religion & Spirituality, Relationships, Society & Culture, Health & Fitness, Sexuality

5 • 817 Ratings

🗓️ 2 April 2024

⏱️ 23 minutes

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It's not how often you argue that determines how happy you are in your marriage. It's how you handle the arguments. Any married couple is going to disagree on something. Are you having a hard time making your spouse feel heard because you don't agree with them? Are you raising your tone unnecessarily? Are you "taking a break" from the discussion but never revisiting? Tune in for 5 quick tips for arguing in a way that actually gets you somewhere. Resources: 2 EROS Conferences Left This Year! Register Here! https://www.dearyoungmarriedcouple.com/eros Interested in Marriage Counseling? Connect here. https://www.dearyoungmarriedcouple.com/counseling Stay in Conversation with Us IG: @dearyoungmarriedcouple Website: https://www.dearyoungmarriedcouple.com Email: [email protected] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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0:00.0	Dear young married couple, do you ever get into those situations where you and your spouse are just escalated or one of you is shutting down and the other one wants to solve it right now?
0:14.0	What do you do? How do you actually responsibly handle the situation?
0:19.0	Well, I'll tell you how a lot of people irresponsibly handle the situation.
0:23.6	Let's talk about that.
0:24.7	So either they get loud enough, right?
0:27.8	And why do we get loud?
0:29.4	We get loud so that the other person hears us.
0:32.3	So that if I could just get through to them.
0:34.7	Right.
0:35.1	Right.
0:35.4	So I get louder because obviously if you heard my point
0:38.6	of view, you would agree with me and know that I'm right. Like that's some, like people do this.
0:45.0	Yes. Another irresponsible way is they will just completely shut down. Generally one person, not both,
0:51.5	sometimes both, but generally there's one person who will just completely
0:55.4	shut down and they might still be there physically, but they're not responding or giving very
1:02.3	minimal responses. And then sometimes they'll physically leave. I'm done. I'm done with the
1:07.8	conversation. So like glazed over eyes or they're like, I'm done. And they done with the conversation. So like glazed over eyes or they're like,
1:11.2	I'm done. And they walk out the door or they walk into a different room. And all of these are
1:18.7	tactics really to either self-soothe, like not blow up, not act like their dad or people they've
1:25.6	seen in their life or what they're doing is they're just,
1:28.7	they're controlling the situation,
1:30.2	like, I'm finished with this conversation,
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