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Today we're going to hear more from Dr. Kathy Cook about what our core needs are and how to fulfill those in appropriate ways.

And last time Dr. Cook described her own childhood struggle of being too tall.

My mom and dad enrolled me in tap dance class and ballet. That's amazing.

And I went from being, you know, really too tall to being the center of the back row, a position that I decided was high on it because only the tallest girl was allowed to be there.

And I became coordinated and I had belonging there. They didn't tease me for my height. My identity was I'm a dancer.

My security, I can trust my mom and I can trust myself because I'm no longer clumsy and I feel safe inside of my own skin.

I had purpose to become a dancer, competence, I'm a dancer. That one decision for me to cry out and my mom and dad to be solution focused changed everything for me at the age of six.

This is focus on the family with focus president and author Jim daily. Thanks for joining us today. I'm John Fuller.

John, we had a great conversation last time with Kathy about how God specifically designed us with holes.

Everybody's going what? Those are the areas of need that we have as human beings created in God's image. He did this. He put these needs in us.

I think for interdependence so we would have relationship and we would do what we can humanly speaking to meet each other's needs in that way in a healthy way.

The problem of course is that we often try to fill those needs with the wrong things. For example, we think we need to be happier or more successful.

But the real need is for security, not those other things. So we become materialistic to try to meet that need.

As human beings living in a fallen world, we may chaff at this idea that we're needy or that God's the only one that can fulfill our needs.

That strikes right at our pride and challenges the false sense of self-sufficiency that so many people have.

But you know what? We can rely upon something even better. Matthew 6, 33, simply said, seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness and all these things will be absolutely successful.

And all these things will be added to you. I think Proverbs 35 and 6 is another area, not to lean on your own understanding, but in all your ways acknowledge Him. And He will make your past straight.

These are great promises. And I'm looking forward to the rest of our discussion with Dr. Kathy Cook today.

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