There's so many kids right now who are about to become a lawyer because they want to make their parents proud.

That's a nice thing.

But if that kills you inside, eventually you will tip and you will resent your parents.

They don't realize is if they went for the micro pain

of telling them now and dealing with the three, six,

12 months of transition of everybody calibrating,

will save them potentially decades

of resentment and anger in both directions.

My personal story is that I had a very clear path to play professional soccer.

So when I bailed on that, everybody in my world was like, yo, what's up?

And then I said, well, I'm going to go to medical school. And then again,

everybody was like, oh, okay, that's cool. I get it. But both of those were living alive.

Count three, four hundred thousand dollars in student loans, a decade off track. I mean how painful is that so this is me

learning exactly if you are off track by a couple degrees and you walk for 10 years

you're a thousand miles from home to try and not make that mistake up front is really valuable and

yet the cool thing is wherever you are right now it doesn't matter how you got

where you are that right now you're in the driver's seat

and when that happens, the world starts happening for you

rather than to you.

Losing in front of others is crippling to people.

Yep.

And you know, it's funny, I've had a revelation I I definitely you know not diagnosed when I was in school but I have a reading comprehension issue and just even a reading issue I'm not a good reader and

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