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Okay, you guys, I'm so excited for this episode. I'm so excited for our guest, Talia Bambola.

Thank you so much for being here. Welcome to seeing other people.

Thank you. I'm a longtime listener, first time guest, I guess is how I would say it.

And I remember seeing your podcast and I was like, I got to get I would say it. And I remember seeing your podcast and I was

like, I got to get on there one day. And I talked to my media person. He's like, let me see what I can do. And I was like, perfect. And so when I got your email and you're like DM, I was like, this is amazing. I think I said you. I was like, I love your podcast. Like I would love to be on it. So I'm very excited to be here. I'm so excited. It's so funny because I've been trying to figure out how to

introduce you and I feel like you be on it. So I'm very excited to be here. I'm so excited. It's so funny because I've

been trying to figure out how to introduce you. And I feel like you're so many things. And you have

such an impressive, like, title. So I'm going to try and do it. First of all, you're known as

the confidence and assertiveness specialist, which is amazing because we need a lot of help in that

area here. Yes. Yes.

You're a psychoanalytic, licensed marriage and family therapist, a professor and a speaker,

and you have your master's degree in clinical psychology, and you're a certified psychodynamic

psychotherapist and host of heal through humor. Yes. And I don't know how I do all that I do.

And I joke with my other podcasts. I'll joke. And I'm like, I would have never started all of them if it were now. Like, the fact that they've been going for years is the only reason why I've kept up with them. And the fact that I love my co-hosts. But it's a lot of work. I mean, you know you do this too. it's that is like a job in and of itself if you wanted to. And then I look at all that I've done. And I'm like, wow, I was really ambitious when I was deriving my self-worth from productivity. Like, okay. And then I think also noticing some like changes after, I don't know if other, I'm sure other women will listen to this too. After I got off birth control, that was a huge shift for me hormonally because I feel like I was so driven, almost like man drive. And then once that shifted, I was like, I'm lighter and more free and I don't need to work as much. And then I was like, yeah, I'm so glad I built all of this beforehand. Oh my God. That is so interesting.

That's something I haven't thought that much about. I've been on birth control since I was in high school. And it was like before I even like had sex for the first time, but I was, I had such bad periods. I was like, I can't, I can't live like a time of a period for half the month. I can't, I can't do that.

So I've been on birth control for like half of my life. And eventually one day I will go off of it. And I haven't really thought about how it might affect me other than getting my period.

Yeah, I was on it for 15 something years trying to do the math. so it was a very long time and nothing like

everything came back right away but i noticed a huge shift in my drive and i also had accomplished

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