And if your marriage is shoulder to shoulder, like we're really good at getting stuff done,

but we don't do face to face very well, the friendship, and vacation is face to face, so we just

kind of avoid it.

What it indicates is you've got a problem with your friendship.

That it says in Song of Solomon, chapter 5, verse 16, she says, this is my lover, this is my

friend. And so part of

marriage is friendship and if it's like well you know I would never go on vacation with them or I don't

like to go on vacation with them then that means you're not friends because if you're going to go

make memories and have fun you want to go with your friends and if you don't want to go with

your spouse that means you may have a may have a functional relationship you don't want to go with your spouse, that means you may have a, you may have a functional relationship.

You don't have a deep friendship.

Welcome back to the Real Marriage podcast.

And we're dealing with a short series on vacations.

We're headed into that season where hopefully you got some fun on the calendar.

And one of the questions came in, should a couple be okay taking separate vacations

or guy-gall trips separately?

We didn't prep for this, so we may disagree.

So you're asking me first?

I don't know who else I'd ask.

So what do you?

Start again because that, you didn't pose that question.

Okay.

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