Are you a People Pleaser?
Sober Awkward
Victoria Vanstone
4.8 • 533 Ratings
🗓️ 4 June 2025
⏱️ 24 minutes
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🎙️ Throwback Thursdays on Sober Awkward!
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| 0:00.0 | So in this episode, we want to look into this trait and unravel why it resides in some of us sober people. |
| 0:11.5 | It kind of follows on from our friendship episodes that were so popular a couple of months ago. |
| 0:17.4 | It's a phrase that comes up a lot on sober awkward. The term people pleaser appears in a lot of episodes. |
| 0:24.3 | But what does it mean? How does it affect us sober people? So today we want to find out more about |
| 0:30.8 | what being a people pleaser is and if it's a positive attribute, a negative personality feature, |
| 0:36.5 | or just being overly socially conscious. |
| 0:39.2 | Hmm. The reason we want to investigate this term today is because we throw this term around |
| 0:44.9 | and both of us are unsure of the part it plays. I know Hamish would say he likes the way I call and |
| 0:51.8 | text and run around like a lunatic and be everyone's friend. |
| 0:55.6 | But I find this trait quite exhausting and sometimes quite disappointing. |
| 0:59.9 | I translate it as being someone that is eager to make others happy and I can't see anything |
| 1:03.7 | wrong with that. I'm interested in when people pleasing goes from being okay to overstepping |
| 1:08.3 | the mark and becoming detrimental. Yeah, I know my people pleasing |
| 1:12.5 | comes from a good place, but I can see that it leaves me vulnerable at times. I think |
| 1:17.4 | haemness is going to be another one of those episodes where we're both learning on the go. |
| 1:20.8 | So stay tuned as we try to uncover why we people please and how not texting back can actually |
| 1:25.9 | make you feel quite empowered. Not that I could ever do it. |
| 1:29.4 | No, not could I. I couldn't leave a text back for like more than 30 seconds. |
| 1:34.3 | Have you been ghosted yourself though? All the time. |
| 1:36.9 | Lovely. |
| 1:38.9 | Sometimes people never text me back and I never see them again. That's the end of our friendship. |
| 1:42.8 | It happens all the time. |
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