Are Working Guys In Shidduchim Second Class? The Truth No One Says
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🗓️ 2 May 2026
⏱️ 81 minutes
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Summary
This episode dives into one of the most talked about trends in the Jewish world right now: Rolex raffles. Are they a creative, effective way to raise money for important causes, or are they feeding into something deeper and more problematic? We unpack the criticism, the psychology behind incentivized giving, and whether intention really matters when it comes to tzedakah. Along the way, the conversation expands into bigger questions about values, culture, and how we balance growth, authenticity, and reality in today's world.
But that's just the surface. This episode also takes a powerful turn into the lives of working guys, those navigating life after yeshiva, and challenges the labels and assumptions placed on them. From shidduchim to identity, from learning vs working to what it really means to be a "Ben Torah," this is an honest, nuanced discussion about responsibility, balance, and redefining success in a way that actually reflects Torah values.
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| 0:00.0 | I want to give you an opportunity to speak on what it's like to ruin an entire generation. |
| 0:04.0 | You are the one responsible for these Rolex raffles that we're seeing. |
| 0:10.0 | We have certainly contributed to the fat. |
| 0:12.0 | We're teaching our younger generation that in order to give Sadaka, they need to get a Rolex, |
| 0:16.0 | then you have a chance to win something. We're feeding into a gambling culture. |
| 0:19.0 | You're bringing up how it's maybe a gateway to something. Incentifies giving is incentivized giving. The reality is it's charity, and it's coming from a good place. The boys that you deal with through McCorchim, they are generally boys who are in the workforce, right? Only in the workforce. They're working. In Shredochim, the working boy has this Bidi-Evd-Evid label on it. |
| 0:37.5 | You're not going to get a Benteh. What is a Bentara? We have so many catchphrases that we throw around. |
| 0:41.7 | Are you referring to a guy that's going to sit and learn all day? Yeah, you're not going to get a guy that's going to sit and learn all day because practically his day is taking off elsewhere. But are you going to get a guy that is Sharma Tauru Mitzvah, Halakha, is finding every second he can to try and connect to a Kaddish Barakou? |
| 0:55.4 | You can find that for sure. |
| 0:56.3 | Can we make working guys great again? |
| 0:57.8 | What? Martaeru Mitzvah, halacha, is finding every second he can to try and connect to Akhash Barakou. |
| 0:55.4 | You can find that for sure. |
| 0:56.2 | Can we make working guys great again? |
| 0:58.2 | What? We'll make a red hat. To say that a working guy is a Biddiyadh, is something that goes against Astyra, goes against the fabric of the way Akhash Barak could have created the world. Do you think that in a practical way in 2026, you take a boy who's working a job and a guy who's sitting in the yeshiva that they are looked at as equal? |
| 1:13.8 | It's a yes or no question. practical way in 2026, you take a boy who's working a job and a guy who's sitting in |
| 1:11.5 | the yeshiva that they are looked at as equal. It's a yes or no question. If you want me to just |
| 1:15.5 | answer yes or no, I would say, Matt yet. I think there's another thing, which might get you |
| 1:25.0 | canceled over here, whether you just roll it or edit it out. |
| 1:28.3 | I'm editing anything. |
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| 2:06.8 | So many different topics, Rolex raffles, what is it doing to our generation? But most importantly, |
| 2:12.0 | the topic of working boys in Shedachim versus learning boys in Shedacham. What's that like? Do the learning boys have an advantage over the working boys? Does the working boy get a bad rap because |
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