Hi, I'm Monica Packer, and you're listening to About Progress, where we are about progress made practical.

For those of you who have been in a longstanding couple relationship, when did you first notice

that you felt a little differently about your significant other than when you were first together?

I don't mean this necessarily in a bad way, but you feel more like your family instead of romantic partners. I remember one of my old roommates got married a while before we

did and she said something about that, how being married for a while made her

feel like she and her husband were family. Their love had changed and not for the bad, but for different, for deeper and ultimately for better.

The thing about longstanding-standing coupledom is that alongside a shifting love

relationship you also will absolutely experience shifts in your sexual relationship too.

Now I personally want to have very happy and long marriage on every level

and I know I'm not alone on that.

And that's why I was so thrilled to invite a returning podcast guest to the show, Emily

Nagowski.

She's here to discuss her latest book on creating longstanding sexual connections.

It's called Come Together.

And I see it as the next step and expansion on her prior two books,

come as you are and burnout. In this interview Emily and I will discuss

the common myths we're all conditioned to carry around long-term committed

relationships. The truth about those myths and how we can, against all the odds

thrown at us, learn to come back together to each other every time.

Emily Nagowski PhD is the award-winning author of the New York Times Best Seller Come As You Are and co-author with her sister Amelia of Burnout and now come together the science and art of creating lasting

sexual connections. Emily began her work as a sex educator at the University

of Delaware and went on to earn a master's in counseling and a

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