An Honest Look at Ongoing P*rn Use (The 10 Marriage Plagues, 1/10)
Fierce Marriage
Ryan and Selena Frederick
4.9 • 4.3K Ratings
🗓️ 5 May 2026
⏱️ 42 minutes
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Summary
Pornography is the number one plague silently destroying Christian marriages today — and most wives never see it coming. Today we tackle the most asked-about topic from over 1,300 listener submissions: what do you do when your husband's secret is finally exposed?
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| 0:00.0 | I think this is the linchpin in this issue is if the husband is repentant because there are many who would write in and say, |
| 0:05.7 | my husband is addicted to pornography. That is a much darker situation than a husband who has been addicted, been hiding it, has been discovered. |
| 0:13.4 | The betrayal comes, you know, it's like an atomic bomb that goes off. |
| 0:16.3 | The wife is going to feel the effects of that and she's going to feel guilt. She's going to feel shame. |
| 0:25.7 | She's going to feel devastation, that and she's going to feel guilt she's going to feel shame she's going to feel devastation despair frustration and complete betrayal depending on what their intimacy life was like before that even though it's not the wife's fault she's going to feel |
| 0:30.7 | the effects of it i guess i wrestle with the question is is it partly your fault if you're not |
| 0:35.4 | engaging with sex and having sex with your fault if you're not engaging with sex and having sex with your husband, if you're not. |
| 0:43.3 | So we've been doing this podcasting video, well, more podcasting, not video, |
| 0:49.3 | but we've been doing this thing. |
| 0:52.3 | We've do marriage for a long time, but we've been doing the fierce marriage. |
| 0:57.7 | Delio for about eight years now. |
| 0:59.7 | Doing the dealio. |
| 1:00.8 | The dealio. |
| 1:01.5 | For eight years, yeah. |
| 1:02.7 | Yeah. |
| 1:02.8 | Yeah, we're at episode roughly 440 right now. |
| 1:07.5 | 440 times we've done this. |
| 1:09.7 | And I still want to talk to you more. |
| 1:12.5 | Yeah. |
| 1:13.0 | You know, |
| 1:13.3 | you'd run out of things to talk about when you're focused on one topic. |
| 1:18.2 | That doesn't take into account all the fierce parenting episodes. |
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