Welcome to Nobody Told Me. I'm Laura Owens and I'm Jan Black. All of us want to be in the best possible physical and mental shape this year. But how can we achieve that?

On this episode, we bring you portions from a couple of our favorite Nobody Told Me Conversations

with a couple of great guests who have a lot to offer in terms of helping you become stronger

physically and mentally. Amy Moran is a psychotherapist whose TED Talk, the secret of becoming

mentally strong,

has had more than 6 million views.

Amy's the author of the international bestselling book,

13 things mentally strong people don't do,

which came about because of Amy's own need to gain mental strength.

So I was a therapist, and I had thought my goal in life was just going to be about teaching

other people to be mentally strong, but I went through a series of losses in my life.

My mother passed away suddenly from a brain aneurysm when I was 23.

And then on the three-year anniversary of her death, my 26-year-old husband died of a heart attack.

Oh, my gosh.

And yeah.

And so at some point, my journey with mental strength really became personal and figured out, okay, it's not just about teaching other people these skills.

I also need to practice them in my own life.

And throughout seeing people in my therapy office over the years, I figured out sometimes

resilience wasn't always about what people did, but sometimes it was more about what they

didn't do.

And so I practiced not just developing good habits, but getting rid of bad habits that

would keep me stuck.

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