Wellness + Wisdom | Episode 701

Wellness + Wisdom Podcast Host, Josh Trent, shares practical steps for self-love and personal growth in 2025.

Today's Question

Matthew: I've been doing everything I possibly can to grow my Wellness Pentagon, but I keep hitting up against this roadblock when it comes to loving myself and believing in myself.

There's a long line of depression and emotional health issues in my family and I just want to escape the cycles of it all once and for all how and where do I begin?

Is there a topic that you'd like us to cover in the next AMA episode?

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Listen To Episode 701 As Josh Trent Answers Your Questions

[01:40] What Is Self-Love?

The question from the audience today is real special. This is a question from Matthew.

Hey Josh, I love the podcast and I've been doing everything I possibly can to grow my Wellness pentagon, but I keep hitting up against this roadblock when it comes to loving myself and believing in myself. There's a long line of depression and emotional health issues in my family and I just want to escape the cycles of it all once and for all how and where do I begin?

What a great question. What a vulnerable question. If you listen to the AMA 699 that we did, and if you haven't, make sure you do. We talked about the number one mindset shift that you must have in 2025 around your beliefs and your barometer.

And we touched on this and I'm so happy that Matthew, you asked this question today because it is the deepest work we'll ever do. It is the most potent work we'll ever do to love ourselves. But how do we actually do it?

Self-love is looked at as selfishness, especially from previous generations, where let's be honest, they didn't have the affluence, the time affluence, the financial affluence that we are afforded with, where we can actually dive in to know ourselves. It's pretty amazing.

I mean, we're so blessed. We're so incredibly blessed to be able to even practice self-love. It's something our ancestors didn't necessarily ever get to do because they were just stuck in survival. Yet, Here's the paradox.

In 2025, self-love isn't selfish, it's about transcending survival. And it's the ultimate power move. Let me ask you this. Do you feel guilty when you put yourself first? When you fill your own cup, Do you have feelings of guilt or shame or a narrative in your mind that says, I shouldn't put myself first?

I should be taking care of everything and everyone else before I put myself first. Well, what if I told you that all successful people prioritize putting themselves first and they do it without shame, guilt, or blame.

Well, in 2025 we're going to unpack why this is so important to put yourself first and also why the world 2025 will demand more from you than ever before and if you don't fill your own cup you'll have nothing left to give.

So first let's define self-love. Self-love is the capacity, the awareness, and the consciousness to take care of yourself, nourish yourself so that you can do that same thing for others. That's essentially what I believe self-love is.

It's the consciousness, capacity, and awareness to care for you in all the different ways of the Pentagon so that you can then give that gift of caring and loving to others. That's what self-love is.

Self-love is not just bubble baths and candles, right? Self-love is about boundaries. It's about self-respect. It's about doing the inner work so you can actually the stigma that's been around for so long.

This self-love has been labeled as this narcissistic or indulgent thing, but true self-love is actually the foundation for authentic relationships, career success, and mental health. Here's why. There are 3 key pillars for self-love...

[14:15] Take Inspired Action

Let's go into the actionable framework for 2025 that you can actually practice on a daily basis to become the best of you.

The first one is having a morning ritual. It's a self-affirmation. It is a mantra. And the mantra I'd love for you to say is put your hands on your heart and say:

I am worthy of the love I give to others. I am worthy of the love I give to others.

Say it over and over and over again until you believe it. I am worthy of the love I give to others. Say it over and over and over again until you believe it. I am worthy of the love I give to others because, in that mantra, you're reinforcing on an unconscious basis that you're giving it to yourself.

You can't give anything to anyone else that you don't hold, right? You can't give wisdom to someone else that you haven't earned. You may be able to regurgitate it, but people are gonna feel in their esoteric nervous system and in their enteric nervous system and in their unconscious nervous system, and their automatic nervous system, that it's just not true.

In other words, we can tell when somebody hasn't embodied something that they're sharing. So even if it's wisdom given from a messenger, the wisdom won't land, the wisdom won't hit and be embodied unless the person themselves has done the work to embody it.

Second practice, I want you to say no for 1 week. Say no for 1 week. Say no to anything or anyone for 1 week that drains your energy. Energy vampires can be acknowledged by just doing this simple practice.

When you hang out with someone, or when you consume content, or when you do anything at all, does it drain your energy? Do you have less energy when you're done? Or do you have more?

Say no for 1 week. Just 1 week. Give it a practice. Say no for 1 week to anything or anyone that drains your soul, that takes away your energy. Watch how this transforms your mindset.

Number 3, tactical. Schedule time for you. Put yourself on your calendar. I have a color-coded calendar where I have business and family and self and in-studio and remote. I really like color-coding. This is a great strategy for you to do this.

So put yourself on the calendar like a meeting can't cancel. Don't cancel on yourself. Use this time to charge yourself. Maybe it's cold plunge, maybe it's sauna, maybe it's walking. It's typically going to be, I'll share with you, it's typically going to be a physical practice.

A lot of our world is sedentary. So nourish yourself with time on your that's color-coded so you can actually practice feeding you, feeding your body, feeding your heart and soul.

Number 4, detox from comparison. In 2025, unfollow any accounts that make you feel less than, that make you feel like shit. There's no reason why you need to be following people or consuming content. Curate your digital space for inspiration, not insecurity.

Have the awareness to know when something's making you insecure that you don't actually have to feed yourself with it. Just because you feel insecure about something means you have to keep banging your head against it till you feel secure. Security is an inside job, not an outside job.

And number 5, in the tactical ways we can practice these skillsets, celebrate small wins. This is a big one for me. I've been so focused in my life on going to the next thing, going to the next thing, that I have lost track of celebrating my small wins.

So for myself and everyone, keep a journal, like write in a journal where you're doing one thing that nourished you that day, one thing that you're proud of, celebrate it. It's not selfish. It's about transcending survival...