So many girls live where do I begin. I see this one I'm out to go in. Then my God I'm kind of nervous.

Don't be nervous.

So I don't have a huge dilemma per se, but I did want to call and talk about sex a little

bit.

Thank you.

My prayers have been answered, okay?

I was literally manifesting in the car.

I was like, I need a good sex good sex call it just I need one so thank you

for calling tell me what's on your mind well I just want your advice because I feel like

you said you like you're not necessarily regrets but like in your 20s you

wished you had more casual effects yeah and so for context I'm 26 and I live in New York City and I just feel like this is my time time to time.

But I really only had like one long time boyfriend from college and I was like three years ago and then like maybe one to two situationships and I just feel like I'm not I don't know like I'm not saying this in a pickney way but I'm not like conventionally like skinny pretty New York City girly pop but like I feel like spring and summer coming up and I just don't know like how to tangibly

Have more casual sex like if you have any tips on I don't know how you do it from the apps, from real life, like what is the approach?

So okay, first of all, I completely understand and I have had many times in my life where I'm in exact same position as you where I'm like,

I want this and I just don't feel like it's available to me.

And I know this is going to sound like a woo-w-woo first step, but the first thing that always helps me is like an attitude shift.

And it's funny because I feel like I've had to learn this lesson several times over

because we just go through phases, right?

Like sometimes you just get in a phase and you're like,

I don't know how I could possibly have casual sex.

Like I don't know how to do that.

I don't feel like it's possible.

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