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Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast

Am I Healed Enough To Date?

Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast

Debra Fileta, M.A., LPC and Creator of TrueLoveDates.com

Self-improvement, Relationships, Education, Religion & Spirituality, Christianity, Society & Culture

4.9 • 757 Ratings

🗓️ 9 April 2024

⏱️ 32 minutes

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Summary

Today on Talk To Me hotline, I talk to Andrew from Texas! His question is, “How do you know you are healed after a past relationship?” After a 16 year marriage ended in divorce, he’s wondering how to know when he has healed… And even more specifically, when is it time to consider dating again after divorce? I answer him by explaining that it’s a complicated question, because everyone’s situation is so different… But if I narrow it down to one thing that I believe differentiates those who are healed from those who are unhealed. What’s that one thing you ask? That’s why you’ve got to tune into this podcast episode, I think it will help you change your perspective no matter what type of relationship you are trying to heal from in your past. We are talking about healing from past relationships today on Talk To Me! Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY!  DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She’s also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0

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0:07.0

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0:24.6

for up to six people, at all protected.

0:26.6

On the beach.

0:29.6

Once it became apparent that the marriage was going to end in divorce

0:36.6

and there wasn't going to be another alternative, the marriage was going to end in divorce and there wasn't

0:38.2

going to be another alternative, then I was able to kind of transition that motivation to myself

0:45.5

and my girls, my daughters, that I knew, hey, if at some point you're going to be divorced,

0:50.9

at some point you're going to have a life outside of this marriage construct that you've known for most of your adult life. And so if you're going to be divorced. At some point, you're going to have a life outside of this marriage construct

0:54.2

that you've known for most of your adult life. And so if you're going to be healthy enough

0:58.6

to have a relationship with somebody else in the future, if that's in the cards, or just to be

1:03.7

a good father and friend and all of the other roles, you need to get healthy on your own. And you

1:10.3

need to fix that relationship that's

1:12.3

quite honestly starts between, you know, with me and God. And that is the relationship that I

1:16.1

need to fix primarily first. And through recovery, that's the work that I've been doing.

1:26.9

Are you ready to talk to me?

1:29.1

My name is Deborah Felita and I'm a licensed professional counselor, national speaker, and author.

1:35.3

Through my blog, books, and podcast, I have the privilege of helping millions of people get healthy mentally, emotionally, spiritually, and relationally.

1:44.5

The purpose of this podcast is to have on-air, authentic, counseling-style sessions where we

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